Perspective....its a game that is meant to be fun! I tell every player, when it stops being fun, stop playing. Don't care about anything else, if you lose the love of the game and competing, then move on to something else. Your not going to make a living playing, your not going to get your money back via education, your just not. You sacrifice time, money, energy, effort, your body, to pursue something you love. Don't do it for anyone else but your self, your love of the game and your teammates!
If you want to see pure love of the game, come watch our WWAST Wounded Warrior charity team play sometime. When these teams play(10u-18u), all we care about is the game. No college, travel, or High School coaches to impress. No jockeying for playing time. No parents working the coach for little Susie. Just pure softball as it was meant to be played, like we used to do as kids playing pickup games at home. We coach as little as needed, all catchers call their own games, of course we still coach and help the players stay focused, but we turn the game over to them as much as possible, as it was meant to be. Its a little heart breaking to hear so many players tell us that this is the most fun they have had playing softball in years and they wish their travel or HS teams were this much fun. Its uplifting for us to hear that the experience was great, but it should not be that way. I tell the players and parents that if you do not walk off the field feeling that way every time, then your doing it wrong. Find a better fit or stop playing. This is not some "everyone gets a trophy" BS either, we play to win and the girls earn their spots on Sunday. You can be successful, work hard and grind, and still not lose the passion to play.
I blame the coaches for this. Its our job to inspire these players and keep them wanting to work because we hold the keys. To keep them ready, relaxed and ready to play instinctively. Say what you mean and do what you say. Consistent, positive, intelligent student of the game coaching. If your the cause of players quitting the game, shame on you and your ego, please find something else to do.
As far as College recruiting, just come ready to play. Show you love the game, your teammates, put in the work you love to put in and it will show on the field. Do that where the coaches are, and if you have the passion and talent, it will take care of itself.