Any teams without daddy ball?

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The term "Daddy Ball" is a derogatory term usually applied to teams that have a parent coach (usually) and their daughter is one of the lesser skilled players on the team but still plays most, if not all innings at a premium position such as Shortstop or Pitcher even though there are much better options sitting on the bench.


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These post kill me...

No daddy ball teams coached primarily by former dad coaches or, newer younger inexperienced coaches....

You want to step up in competition?
Go on down to a team with limited fees and non parent coaches Louisville Lady Sluggers...
Big time travel vs. the best travel teams in the USA. Be prepared to be rostered with 15 to 20 and sit if you cannot break the line up with D or at the plate...
 

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how about mommy ball? Seen this too.
i think its funny because you got daddy ball, parent goggles, helicopter parents and so on.... if there is no dirty laundry to talk about, then it just doesn't get the attention that everyone loves. Everyone loves dirty laundry!
 

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I have always found the term derogatory. It was probably invented by Parents who make any and every excuse for their lack of production instead of holding them accountable. Are there "DADS" who play their daughter's on their team to a point of favoritism.....sure.....but there are also plenty of "DADS" who bench their daughters the second they deserve it and DP Flex for them when they do not hit etc. Bottom line......why is the term not "Mommy Ball"........why aren't the women who played the sport 10 years ago coaching more?
Most of the men that coach don't want a woman coaching.
 

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Most of the men that coach don't want a woman coaching.
Not true. I have my daughter who's a former college player as an AC in training as well as a female parent AC in training. I'm hoping that I can pass along the knowledge that I have accumulated over the past 20 years to them so they can carry on the tradition so to speak. I have also worked over the past 2 years with a former college softball player and she is now the HC of our 12u team. And no...they don't have to do things my way, just teach the skills at a high level to develop their players successfully so they can achieve whatever softball dreams they have.
 

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Well, I would say that is not the norm. When I offered to coach first in a pinch I was laughed at. I played softball in college, yes it was DIII but when I offered I was asked if my husband was available. Mind you he quit baseball his freshman year of HS so he could go to Florida on spring break.
 
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Well, I would say that is not the norm. When I offered to coach first in a pinch I was laughed at. I played softball in college, yes it was DIII but when I offered I was asked if my husband was available. Mind you he quit baseball his freshman year of HS so he could go to Florida on spring break.
What does D3 have anything to do with it? You played fastpitch at a higher level than 99.5% of all male coaches in the country just by playing college ball. Will that make you a good coach in the long run? Maybe; maybe not. But it certainly qualifies you to coach 1st base for a game when the team was in a pinch.
 

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Well, I would say that is not the norm. When I offered to coach first in a pinch I was laughed at. I played softball in college, yes it was DIII but when I offered I was asked if my husband was available. Mind you he quit baseball his freshman year of HS so he could go to Florida on spring break.

If this is the normal (you being laughed at), I am appalled at such behavior and you should get an apology from those involved. Fact is; in college life there are more and more female coaches than ever before. The sport is producing some very knowledgeable players that are transitioning into fine coaches at all levels. As mentioned by yocoach, not all will make good coaches. I believe it takes more than playing the game. It takes a certain level of maturity as well as experience to gain the respect of other coaches and of the players. That's why a coach in training needs a few years as an assistant. Coaching first base in a game is definitely a first step to make that happen. I hope that staff in question sees their error.
 

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Well, I would say that is not the norm. When I offered to coach first in a pinch I was laughed at. I played softball in college, yes it was DIII but when I offered I was asked if my husband was available. Mind you he quit baseball his freshman year of HS so he could go to Florida on spring break.
"one bad apple dont ruin the whole bunch girl"

many coaches with half a brain would openly welcome you as a female coach. I think it is needed and super helpful for the girls. If your looking to coach or help coach contact me. We would like to add a female coach to our staff. especially one that has played in college before. :)
 

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There are plenty of clueless daddy coaches. It’s helpful for our daughters to see, hear and learn from a female that’s been through the gauntlet of the softball world. Both in softball and in life.
 

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What does D3 have anything to do with it? You played fastpitch at a higher level than 99.5% of all male coaches in the country just by playing college ball. Will that make you a good coach in the long run? Maybe; maybe not. But it certainly qualifies you to coach 1st base for a game when the team was in a pinch.
Thank you that was my point exactly. People just assume that since I am a woman I don't have the knowledge or experience to help at all. D3 means a didn't get a full-ride or anything to play but I tried out and made the team. The A team at that. This also was 30 years ago a lot has changed.
 

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There are plenty of clueless daddy coaches. It’s helpful for our daughters to see, hear and learn from a female that’s been through the gauntlet of the softball world. Both in softball and in life.
yes none of my daughter's coaches have ever been a 13-year-old girl! I on the other hand have!
 

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We have a lot of female coaches in our Organization. I currently have a female assistant coach. Female coaches are very valuable to a team or org. Girls will go and talk to a female coach about certain things they will not discuss with male coach. Sometimes those things could be the difference maker in a performance.
 

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I've been looking for a female assistant for months. Can't find one interested
 

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It may be because she feels she may not be given the respect a male coach would. If you find someone interested I would make sure she knows that! I know if I was approached that would be my reservation.
 

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The question should be are there any good softball coaches? Without "daddy", good luck fielding as many teams and orgs as we have in Ohio....just sayin. I really hate that term as well, its usually from parents who think their kid is better than they are or should play where they think and not coaches.-not saying the poster is one of those

I have been around the game quite a few years and my experience is that "daddy's" girl is usually either one of the better players, or gets the worst of it from her daddy coach. Most true "daddy" ball takes place on lower level competitive teams, as it plays itself out quickly.
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Is there such a thing? On the truly elite teams I suspect it's less common, but at the mid level teams is there such a thing as life without daddy ball? Do any of those teams have openings?
Well our 18u teams (Ohio Hawks Adams) have non-parent coaches and our assistant coaches former /current softball players; it has been that way for 4 seasons or so.
 

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