Bullying

[Irish196]

That girl was my cousin and you have hit the nail right on the head. Very well written. Let's hope our society makes a quick change or I feel the future will be dark.

I'm sorry for you and your family's loss.

 

[Irish196]

From what I have seen, I don't think its normally the kid with the lesser ability that gets picked on or excluded.

I agree- I have seen both. On on of my daughter's teams it was the girl with the best batting average - it didn't matter, nothing she did was good enough. She finally had enough from both the vocal parents and the mean girls and left. It was a big loss. The girl was a wonderful girl and the family was one of the best.

 

[FastBat]

It was pretty hard to not start laughing at him. Not for being proud of his kid. Who isn't, right?

It's hard to explain. It was a really funny situation.

I kept it together somehow.

Don't you think if it were true, you would have discovered it on your own?
There is a fine line between being proud of your kid and trying to intimidate the new parent and his kid.

 

[FastBat]

I always encourage my daughter to be the person who talks to the girl no one is talking to

I bet she took that lesson and applied it to her school life, etc. That's what sports are about.

 

[bell27]

I hope your daughter has found a better group of girls to play with! Unfortunately over the years and different teams, our daughter has seen a few of her favorite teammates move on because of mean kids and parents and coaches that let that go on.

I always encourage my daughter to be the person who talks to the girl no one is talking to or to include the girls no one else wants to include- to just do what she would want someone to do for her if she was in that situation. I know to some people it seems like no big deal, but having no one who wants to warm up with you probably feels like hours of humiliation in the eyes of a teenaged girl.

She has...we are starting our second year with a great group of kids, parents and coaches!! My DD does exactly that....goes to someone that is being excluded in school or wherever it may happen and includes them.

My DD was adopted from foster care so she knows struggles and hurt that some kids and parents will never understand. Bullying by exclusion is still very much an act of bullying and hurts just as much as words. You never know someone's story and what may seem completely benign or harmless can leave lifelong scars.

 

[FastBat]

I would be very concerned if my child was bullying other children. The problem isn't the person getting bullied, but the person doing the bullying. Being a bully leads to more aggressive antisocial behaviors, which could lead to life long problems for a bully. It just shouldn't be tolerated, especially in softball!

 

[mroby5172]

Thank you, it has been a challenge to deal with this.