I have to say that you have no worries. I know of 4 girls who played in College:
1- pitched at Wayne State, pitched Varsity all 4 years
1- played JV Freshman year, moved up Soph year, 4 year letter winner at MSU OF
1- Pitched Fr and Soph on JV, was told she would never pitch on Varsity, ended up All-State by end of Junior year and full ride at Wayne State
1- my favorite, she played JV (pitched) both FR and Soph, I want to say she got moved up to Varsity but did not pitch Soph year(moved up mid year), pitched but was not Super Star. WALKED ON at OSU. Got cut. Asked to be team manager. Was team manager, a bunch of pitchers got hurt and they asked her to suit up. She ended up being a 4 year letter winner at OSU. That is what I called persevering. And she is one of the nicest human beings I have ever met.
The bottom line is that the ones who love the sport and are willing to work their arse off will get where they want to go IMO. Except for the girl who played at MSU none of the others were considered "STUDS". They were all just really great, smart, hard working ladies. All of them had good grades, and great attitudes. The classic "great teammate" types.