If softball is just a game to you and your daughter, sure, why bother yelling or setting expectations? I always viewed it as more. A great way for my daughters to learn to face adversity and overcome it. I yelled and screamed at them. It made them learn how to deal with someone expecting more and letting them hear it when they didn't meet expectations. My oldest just graduated from college, 4 year starter and softball paid for it. She watched other players fall apart at the first sign of disappointment from their college coach. It didn't bother her, she had heard it before. My second is a 2 year starter and softball is paying for it. Same thing, coach yells at her, she gets it, and moves on, no crisis. The number of girls they grew up playing with, that failed at the college level because they were always told it was the umpire, the coach, the parents or other players and couldn't handle criticism is pretty significant. I have 2 younger ones coming up and the 2 older ones give me crap for NOT yelling enough. It made them stronger. I think the real argument is drawing the line. It is true for females that if they aren't having fun, they won't play well. But if they are never criticized when they fail, they never learn to fight through it, to do better and to accept that no matter how hard they work or how well they do, someone will always criticize them...