Discussion in 'General Softball Discussions' started by Akronmomma1234, Mar 25, 2019.

  1. Akronmomma1234

    Akronmomma1234 New Member

    What do you do with a troubled parent who is causing so much trouble with in your softball team. Threatening to call her brother who is a lawyer on the coach and vice president. They have been the greatest people. I just dont understand how come they keep the people around!!!!
  2. Stedman00

    Stedman00 Active Member

    don't know anything about this situation. BUT is there something going on that would warranty an attorney being involved? Money issues? abuse? negligence? Or just crazy parent and play time for 'Little Sally"???
  3. daboss

    daboss Well-Known Member

    StedmanOO has asked all the right questions and to be honest there's really little wiggle room for a definitive answer without knowing more.

    If you are not the coach or the family involved you have no dog in the fight except you are unhappy with the atmosphere with the team. If this is the case, I suggest a private meeting without the kids. You and the coach or their staff if that's how they want it. Express your concerns. If they don't have any answers your personal choice would be to leave the team. You can only control your own destiny here. Perhaps the coach and staff are unaware of the friction but I really doubt that. lol. My guess is they are trying to figure out what they should do to resolve things.

    Before you make it an "Us or them" situation, discuss with your daughter what she wants to do. If she's not seeing it and the ones struggling with things are you and your family, perhaps you could tolerate it by putting distance between you and the offensive family. My guess is if you are experiencing difficulties, others will be willing to join you. I suggest you still have the private meeting with the coach so they understand you're trying to be the bigger person for the sake of your child. An entire summer of misery is not what you signed up for but be sure you are ready to follow thru with things in the event you have to choose.

    If your only concern is you are empathizing with the coach and staff, your private meeting to express your support I'm sure will be appreciated. I hope it works out.
  4. hammerhead20

    hammerhead20 Member

    Document EVERYTHING. Practice plans, workouts, playing time, stats, all communications (which I would do in email or text for back-up). If this is a playing time thing, give them a partial refund and get rid of them or your Summer will be a nightmare. Better to deal with the mess now. It will likely only get worse.
  5. Captain_Thunder

    Captain_Thunder Super Moderator Staff Member

    Many teams have the policy of "You pay to be a member of the team, not for playing time". So how can the first piece of advise be to give a refund if they are not getting PT???? I am well aware that getting rid of the problem is the best solution. But going against team or organizational policy is not a good move either....
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  6. LineDrive1434

    LineDrive1434 Member

    What ever you choose to do, do it quickly. June and July will be the longest two months of your life if you don't. Pretty soon the players and parents will be divided as well. Plus now is the time to get private workouts since 14 and up are no longer working as a team in terms of practices.
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