I have read all of the posted on this situation .Maybe a little tip for everyone involved . As an OHSAA,ASA,NSA, IFA, and national little league umpire in softball,I have been in this situation several times and I have a way to take care of the problems most of the time . I also officiate high school football and basketball so I've heard it all ( I THINK ) . As an ump I feel that if I treat the teams well they will treat me well . Last season I done over 225 games and of all of those games I had only 4 ejections . Some officials won't agree with my ways of doing things and the umpire that trained me just can't stand me doing it .Before the game starts I talk to the coaches and tell them that we all came here today to have fun and that includes ME . If I have fun we all will have fun and when it gets to a point that I'm not having fun ,none of us will have fun so it's your choice, let's have a fun game. When the pitcher takes the mound I will have a similar talk with them . While the catcher is getting warmed up I will talk to them also . During the game I'm always talking to the catchers and batters I don't want them to be intimidated by me and we usually have a good time . If a situation occurs that a player wants to express their opinion as long as they aren't out of line I'll hear what they have to say and if they want to get exited about something all I do is say I've heard enough let's play ball .As for the spectators they always see more and it seems they always know more rules than there are in the book I just block them out .The only thing that I hear from them is foul language anything other I don't hear it . If you don't argue with them pretty soon they will quiet down. If you look at the game as being a business the teams and players as being customers so to say . If you are all of the time flexing your muscle and throwing people out ,soon they won't come back . Next they will tell other teams hoe bad it is then they don't come back . Pretty soon there isn't enough team to play in your tournament or league and as an umpire .......guess what your not needed anymore . So the main thing I guess I'm trying to say is you must give respect to get respect. I know that there are players and coaches on here that I have umped and you will have to agree that there is very seldom any problems in my games . LETS ALL HAVE FUN .