This has been burning inside me for years and maybe I'm overreacting but I want to share my feelings and see what you think. Fundraising. Being such an active coach over the years and still very much involved all winter with my pitching lessons I get asked a lot if I'd like to buy something. I normally participate--------some times at great expense. The problem I have is; who's supposed to be doing this? Is it the parents or the kids? Recently, I was asked to buy sandwiches to raise money for a camp 2 sisters wanted to attend. Contact was made by the mom by way of a text. I agreed. Sunday while I was working, I get a text by the mom wanting to know if they could come out and collect the money prior tho placing the order. We agreed to a time. I came to the house early to clean up some (I'm a farmer) and put on a clean shirt to wait on their arrival. On time comes a truck with the dad alone to collect the money. I invited him in and offered him iced tea I took the time to brew. We talked. I asked about the girls, where are they? He informed me they were home doing nothing. I honestly felt like they didn't know their dad was coming but at the least they didn't want to come collect the money themselves. So, am I overreacting to believe this is wrong? With my daughter, I was guilty of offering fundraiser deals to my friends as I saw them. I took orders. However, She was always involved in collecting the money and giving them their purchase so she could thank them. That was mandatory and at a great sacrifice and expense to me. One year I bought her entire quota of submarine sandwiches because with the farm and the season we were experiencing I had no time to drive her everywhere to do this stuff. I was a single parent. That may have been the least out-of-pocket season she ever had if you consider all the gas and time it took me to do it the right way! I've always tried to keep my distance and not get involved telling others how to raise their kids. It's what is great about our country, freedom to choose. Not every event in life needs to be a teaching moment. Some times it simply "is what it is." I can't help thinking it's a mistake to participate in fundraisers like this when the kids don't appear to care. Maybe they don't need that camp that bad. I can make my own sandwiches. It's not THAT great a bargain. So is it just me?