A lot of good responses and I hope it has helped you in this situation. I will only tell you about my own dd and not really give advice in your situtation, only ours.
My dd turned down a D2 school with scholarship money, since she did not think she would be happy there at the school or with the coach. Was I disappointed ? Yes a little at the beginning. Am I now, no not at all.
We have visited several colleges and talked with all the coaches, (D2 & D3)talked with so many on the phone it is hard to count and she still has not decided where she wants to go. She now has gotten her choice down to 3 colleges and all are D3 of her own choice. (Has been accepted at 6 including the 3)
For me and our situation, I feel that it is her choice where she wants to go and what she wants to do. I also feel that it is at least 4 years of her life and her future that is at stake, so I want her to be happy and not make a choice based on what I want her to do. Honestly, it would not hurt me if she does not play softball at all if that is her choice. In fact, going on to college is her choice and once again, it would not hurt me if she decided to go to work now instead. In fact it may hurt me more to see her go to college, especially since all 3 are out of state.
The bottom line, is in our case, I trust my daughter to choose what she thinks is the best for her future and not what I want or think is best for her. My ego and proud Dad part of it, has nothing to do with what makes her happy and that is the most important part, I feel.
Just our situation - yours may be different.
Sincerely,
PS. My dd is 18 years old, her friend did choose the D2 college and my dd still turned down the offer. I will state that if your dd has that much experience and wants to play at the D2 or D3 level, I am certain many colleges would love to have her. If she is a senior in HS, it is getting late, but if you wish to know more about what we have done to get the attention of colleges, send me a private PM. The information I will share has worked for us and many other girls I know.
Most importantly my turst in God that He will help her make the right choice and open the right doors for her is the best reason I have for not being upset or dissappointed in the least.