Coaching boys and girls

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• May 12, 2008

• #1

I had a so called ?"coach" tell me that you coach girls the same way you do boys. To me there is a BIG difference. I do agree that you teach them the same skills, but you have to coach them differently. Teenage girls are much different than boys. You have to have more patience with them and you have to know how to let them have FUN! If you can change things up more often, you will get more out of your players. You have to know how to get them to believe in themselves and try not to ever be negative. If they make a mistake you can fix it by being positive. If you are negative to them it is not good for their morale. They just will not respond to you if you are always negative. This goes for boys or girls... ?but I still believe there IS a difference in coaching girls. There is also a BIG difference in Knowing the game and being a ?"coach".

 

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• May 12, 2008

• #2

That guy is a moron. He has never coached competitive fastpitch. My 13 year old son plays travel baseball and the game is much slower. You don't see near the bunting in baseball and if you had a boy slap you would be run out of town. Just the size of the diamond dictates that you coach different. Baseball seems pretty much auto-pilot coaching during the game. I will say that the girls are equal in skill to the boys, the only real difference is in strength where the girls fall short.

 

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• May 12, 2008

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I help coach my son's 10U travel team and we do bunt and slap not often but after we put down a few bunts and have the corners charging you should see them check up when the batter pulls it back to "punch" the ball by them. I have almost giggled a few times when coaching third base. The bunt is different because of the dimensions and is much more of a sacrifice but boys are also not as ready for it and therefore in the beginning of games they work for hits. My goal is to make the other team think more than they want to and begin to question what they are doing.

But coaching girls and boys is totally different and anybody who doesn't believe it is in for a long season. I always refer back to the qoute from Candrea " boys have to play good to feel good and girls have to feel good to play good."

 

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• May 12, 2008

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That is my point "Boys have to play good to feel good, Girls have to feel good to play good". Its the mental part I'm talking about. Not baseball vs fastpitch, but how you handle your coaching.... Well said.

 

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• May 13, 2008

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Girls need to know that a coach cares about them first as a person, then as a player. Then they will give the coach all they can give. Girls do not respond to neg. comments or yelling, cause they ALL blame themselves, while boys look around and think coach isn't talking about me. Gotta have fun or they will to to be cheerleaders. lol

 

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• May 13, 2008

• #6

I agree with the above posts. Hammmer stated it correctly. Girls , keep it positive, If you think boys and girls are coached the same, then you must not be married, or it didn't last long.!

 

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• May 13, 2008

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Was helping out my younger daughters rec coach last night, by throwing batting practice to the 12u girls.
One girl was driving the balls in the dirt - grounders.

I explained to her she was breaking her wrists over at impact. I showed her if she swung like this it would be a line drive.

Her response was, I will swing the bat, how I want to swing the bat.
I chuckled.

12 year old girls, dont you love them.

What was weird though, she reminded me of my wife?


straightleg

 

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• May 14, 2008

• #8

I bet our 12u team could give a boys team a run for their money.

 

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• May 14, 2008

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Awww---but you know how it would all go down.? ?

If the boys won, they'd say it just showed their natural superiority. ?:

If the girls won, the boys would just say "we let you win", lol. ?;D

 

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• May 14, 2008

• #10

?I think there are a lot of girls teams that would surprise the boys teams.
But, we dont want to hurt their egos.

 

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• May 15, 2008

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I agree 100 0/0 girls need pick me ups more then boys. Need positive influence in the dugout before and throughout the game. Coaches flat girls flat. Seen it all to often. Not saying not to correct them just coach them throughout. JMHO

 

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• May 15, 2008

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The bat bag tells the story: Daughter:1. Helmet(name and # on it) - Son: 1. Helmet(shares his with team)
2. 3 bats - 2. 1 bat(shares with team)
3. sliding pads(notice plural) - 3.are you kidding!
4. glove - 4.glove
5. pre wrap(2 different colors) - 5-9. Again-are you kidding!
6.brush
7.suntan lotion(non-oily)
8. bug spray
9. chapstick(spf)
10. cleats 10. wears cleats to field
11. extra laces 11. why?
12. batting gloves 12. batting gloves
13. facemask(to protect what's important) 13. cup(same reason)
14. visor 14. wears hat to field
15. sunglasses 15. wears to field
16. cooler with healthy food for 16. Uses concession stand only!
between games and just the
right flavor of gatoraid

 

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• May 15, 2008

• #13

Cats94 that is priceless. Also have a son playing ball and you are dead on accurate!!

 

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• May 25, 2008

• #14

Great list- I love it...

Someone on here told me a few years ago that for boys to be happy they have to win, and for girls to win they have to be happy.

A friend of mine who had coached boys basketball took over a high school girls' program. ?I told him he needs to be 50% coach and 50% psychologist. ?

Girls still want the discipline, and want it to be consistent. ?I believe you teach the game the same way too. ?Girls seem to try harder to learn as well, unless mom or dad interfere- but then that is a different post...

 

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• May 26, 2008

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At the NFCA convention an AD from Kentucky I think and a former WNBA player if I am correct got my attention; She said if you had boys in one dugout and girls in the other and put a baseball and a bat in the circle; the boys will start to play first.

The girls want to know who is going to be playing what position, what are the rules they want to know what to expect as she explained it.

The boys just want the competition and don't don't really care who wins or looses.

She pointed out that the girls will play just as competitively once they understand how and that is important to women, what are the rules, who is going to be on our side etc.

And then she asked the next question and you could have heard a pin drop with about 1,100 people in attendance...She prefaced her statement do not raise your hand; how many of you male coaches have been married more than once? How many of you are divorced or separated? How many of you of you are having issues with your significant other and that took me a minute to figure out and then I got it.

The bottom line was how are you communicating with the girls you are coaching and if your communications skills are any better than the ones you use in your marriage or relationship with your partner or significant other.

I was there with two other travel coaches from Cincinnati and we looked at each other and started thinking out loud about various coaches we knew and how they handled the girls and it became apparent, she the speaker was right on target with her assessment.

They are wired differently than boys and therefore MUST be taught and coached differently in my opinion than boys.

 

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• May 26, 2008

• #16

Hitter - Hmmmmm, food for thought. I'd like to learn more about that.