Disrespectful? Or uncalled for?

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I witnessed an incident at Pastime Park during the 14U Harrison Shootout.
Team A was at bat- Team B in the field. There was a play at 3rd base- the 3rd base player had the ball and was ready to tag the runner. Runner instead of sliding into base- ran into the 3rd base player and both fell to the ground- Team A girl on top of the Team B player. Ball came loose- both trying to get up to make a play. Coach of Team A was trying to call interference- but the umpire was right there and told him that both girls were trying to make a play. 3rd base girl told Coach of Team A that the Team B girl was on top of her trying to prove her point. Team A Coach told the player "Shut up- I wasn't talking to you". Now, to me that was very disrespectful to anyone. How could a coach talk to anyone like that?

Any opinions? Maybe the coach had a bad day? Or maybe this is his personality?

As a parent/coach- I would never ever talk to a player the way he did.



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If he did then I hope he had enough class to apologize to the girl and maybe you didn't see that. If he did it and didn't apologize then he should reconsider coaching a kids game. If that 3rd base girl was my daughter and I witness it I would have exploded!
 
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Well- as far as I know he was denying the remark- but there was too many people that witnessed this. The girl's dad did say a few words to the coach. Yes, he should have apologized for the remark.


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Softball or anything in life for that matter, every adult at some point sets an example for kids. Those in a leadership role should always remember it is even more so with them.
 
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I've gone through and removed the names. >:( I'd appreciate it if they will stay removed....
 
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It is easy to sit there and say "I would never....."
If someone tells you they have never said something to a player that they regret then either they are a saint, dont remember, not much of a competitor or are being dishonest.

I told myself I would never visually show my disgust over a bonehead play but found myself doing it and I was disapointed in myself.

No doubt that is bad and I hope he apologized for it but people make flubs like that all the time. You try to keep your foot out of your mouth as much as possible.

If this person does it often or is just a harsh person then make a complaint but a guy saying shut up once is like saying a cussword in front of your kids. You know better and if anyone see you do it they will be posting it somewhere. I bet most parents have told their own kids to shut up a time or two.

People are too darn sensitive these days
 
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ThatGuy2120 said:
It is easy to sit there and say "I would never....."
If someone tells you they have never said something to a player that they regret then either they are a saint, dont remember, not much of a competitor or are being dishonest. ?

I told myself I would never visually show my disgust over a bonehead play but found myself doing it and I was disapointed in myself.

No doubt that is bad and I hope he apologized for it but people make flubs like that all the time. You try to keep your foot out of your mouth as much as possible.

If this person does it often or is just a harsh person then make a complaint but a guy saying shut up once is like saying a cussword in front of your kids. You know better and if anyone see you do it they will be posting it somewhere. I bet most parents have told their own kids to shut up a time or two.

People are too darn sensitive these days
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Well Put!! :cool:
 
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OK I have one.... Picture this:
Was at Fairborn this weekend and over heard a 10u coach "reprimanding" his team during a game they were losing. He spoke words like:
What is wrong with you? Do you know what you are doing? What is your problem? Then in frustration stomps off only to turn back around and say to these 10 year old girls: Why are you crying? There was one girl sobbing so hard she could not catch her breath and could not even speak.
Now to me this is way over the line and very uncalled for. JMHO
 
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wgman21 said:
[quote author=ThatGuy2120 link=1212574868/0#5 date=1212593245]It is easy to sit there and say "I would never....."
If someone tells you they have never said something to a player that they regret then either they are a saint, dont remember, not much of a competitor or are being dishonest.

I told myself I would never visually show my disgust over a bonehead play but found myself doing it and I was disapointed in myself.

No doubt that is bad and I hope he apologized for it but people make flubs like that all the time. You try to keep your foot out of your mouth as much as possible.

If this person does it often or is just a harsh person then make a complaint but a guy saying shut up once is like saying a cussword in front of your kids. You know better and if anyone see you do it they will be posting it somewhere. I bet most parents have told their own kids to shut up a time or two.

People are too darn sensitive these days
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Well Put!! :cool:[/quote]

Too darn sensitive?? Maybe in some areas of life we are but not in this case. He is a role model in a leadership position in a KIDS game. No room for that kind of behavior. If he can't control himself stay out of the arena. This wasn't a kid on his team either, this was a young lady on the opposing team. No excuse for being that disrespectful. Those that believe we are being too sensitive are probably the first ones to complain about teenagers being disrespectful or about the disrespectful lyrics to songs they listen to yet are okay with a leader showing teens how its done. You guys from New York area. :eek:
 
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coachmem said:
OK I have one.... Picture this:
Was at Fairborn this weekend and over heard a 10u coach "reprimanding" his team during a game they were losing. He spoke words like:
What is wrong with you? Do you know what you are doing? What is your problem? Then in frustration stomps off only to turn back around and say to these 10 year old girls: Why are you crying? There was one girl sobbing so hard she could not catch her breath and could not even speak.
Now to me this is way over the line and very uncalled for. JMHO
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It is way over the line. This is 10 year olds playing a game in America not 10 year olds training for the Olympics in the Soviet Union! ;D
 
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mustohiofastpitch said:
[quote author=wgman21 link=1212574868/0#6 date=1212593416][quote author=ThatGuy2120 link=1212574868/0#5 date=1212593245]It is easy to sit there and say "I would never....."
If someone tells you they have never said something to a player that they regret then either they are a saint, dont remember, not much of a competitor or are being dishonest. ?

I told myself I would never visually show my disgust over a bonehead play but found myself doing it and I was disapointed in myself.

No doubt that is bad and I hope he apologized for it but people make flubs like that all the time. You try to keep your foot out of your mouth as much as possible.

If this person does it often or is just a harsh person then make a complaint but a guy saying shut up once is like saying a cussword in front of your kids. You know better and if anyone see you do it they will be posting it somewhere. I bet most parents have told their own kids to shut up a time or two.

People are too darn sensitive these days
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Well Put!! :cool:[/quote]

Too darn sensitive?? Maybe in some areas of life we are but not in this case. ?He is a role model in a leadership position in a KIDS game. No room for that kind of behavior. If he can't control himself stay out of the arena. This wasn't a kid on his team either, this was a young lady on the opposing team. No excuse for being that disrespectful. ?Those that believe we are being too sensitive are probably the first ones to complain about teenagers being disrespectful or about the disrespectful lyrics to songs they listen to yet are okay with a leader showing teens how its done. You guys from New York area. ?:eek:[/quote]


Go back and reread the quote. If you have never accidentally, in the heat of the moment, said something that you regret then my hat is off to you my friend! I don't think either of us are making excuses for the guy not apologizing. That wasn't the point of thatguy2120's post. If you want to skewer the guy, do it because he didn't apologize. [highlight]Any and I mean any[/highlight] one of us could have said something like that in the heat of the moment. If you try to tell me that you would never, I would say shame on you for lying to 8700 people!! He should man up and apologize for saying something stupid. That is where that particular gentleman was wrong. Anyone can have a slip of the tongue once. I hope I didn't offend your delicate sensibilities! :D
 
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Well, I'm going to get my hands dirty and agree with wgman. I think alot of people come on here and live in glass houses to some extent. We are all Monday morning quarterbacks on here after the fact. I have a lifelong problem that I will not beat until I die, and it is that I am human and therefore predisposed of doing and saying stupid things. I am sure there will be some point this summer where I and/or my parents do or say something that is stupid. Will I regret it, sure. Can I change it after the fact, no. Can I learn from it? I hope so. Recognize the mistake, fix it with an apology, etc. and move forward. As long as no laws are broken and people try to make it right, chalk it up to human stupidity and move on.
 
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What'd I do? I hate getting the eyes after my posts!!!!! :-X
 
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TheRinger said:
What'd I do? I hate getting the eyes after my posts!!!!! :-X
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I'm sure it was meant for me. I've said my peace! :-X
 
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We are mis-connecting here. I said up top the guy should just apologize to the girl. I agree we all make mistake and I am the first to believe in forgiveness. If he didn't or wouldn't apologize then he is a problem.

My concern is with "People are too darn sensitive these days". That implies we should just let it slide regardless of whether he maned up to his mistake or not, or even considered it a mistake. Dealing with kids I can't disagree more. AND I have no sensibilities to offend, just ask the wife! ;D
 
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wgman21 said:
[quote author=TheRinger link=1212574868/0#13 date=1212597294]What'd I do? I hate getting the eyes after my posts!!!!! :-X
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I'm sure it was meant for me. I've said my peace! :-X
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Me to! :-X
 
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mustohiofastpitch said:
[quote author=wgman21 link=1212574868/0#14 date=1212597917][quote author=TheRinger link=1212574868/0#13 date=1212597294]What'd I do? I hate getting the eyes after my posts!!!!! :-X
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I'm sure it was meant for me. I've said my peace! :-X
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Me to! ?:-X
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See Bear, All friends again. ;D
 
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TheBearMay said:
:cool: Just wanted to make sure we didn't get too far astray...
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As you see, [highlight]sometimes[/highlight] we can act like adults, have a heated discussion and not get out of hand. ;)
 
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