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• Aug 1, 2009

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we recently had a kid quit because parents were upset she did not get to play the position they thought she should be playing. now the want her to come back!personally i say no way !!!!!!!!!!!!any thoughts on this issue? as for me you quit your done period

 

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• Aug 1, 2009

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GOOD Bye... Classless move to take you kid away because of a Position. Please My kid was a MUCH better Option at a Key position this year and the other Kid played there 85% of the Time ( I was even an assistant Coach) But I dont believe in whining about these things ( Not that I didnt scratch my head and moan now and then ALL year as the Errors piled up, i aint THAT Good ). but in the end , My daughter learned a New Position and was Great at it , and is now More Versatile for it. I say Finish what you start and do it well...whatever IT is !!

 

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• Aug 1, 2009

• #3

Some people shouldn't be allowed to be parents but we can't control that. I say think of the kid first and let her back.

 

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• Aug 1, 2009

• #4

I say, "Think of the team first."

The "disgruntled-ness" will happen again. Resulting in quitting again. resulting in a disruption of the team harmony.

 

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• Aug 1, 2009

• #5

I say no. If the parents were disgruntled you can bet they were talking a lot about it around their dd, which in turns creates attitude issues with her. They quit, tryout time is upon us, let them look elsewhere for what they think their dd needs. IMHO

 

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• Aug 1, 2009

• #6

Simple question--Would you give YOURSELF cancer? And, if you beat it, would you give it to yourself again? If you don't learn from History, you will repeat mistake; and only the insane repeat actions and expect different results. Now that the cliches are over, Heck no! Every branch of the services will let you DOR)drop on request) and if you do they DO NOT ask or let you come back. Adults and kids both need to learn actions have consequnces.

 

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• Aug 1, 2009

• #7

Wow, I would not take her back after she quit. That's rude on their part!

 

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• Aug 1, 2009

• #8

had a similar situation... let "HER" come back. Have a sit down with them and clear the air...for me it worked out great and I love the parents and kid to death. Sometimes a hard talk is needed and emotion gets the best of people. As Musty said, do it for the kid. Season's over now, right... does that change things?

 

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• Aug 1, 2009

• #9

NO WAY!! One bad kid OR parent can spoil your team. There is too much time and money tied up in this to ruin it for the whole team. Once they quit they should be gone!!

 

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• Aug 1, 2009

• #10

The girls that stuck it out will remember the one that quit. The parents will remember. It is not a good situation. There are way too many teams out there. If you try out and make the team, then committ to the team, that is for the season. Lot's of girls don't get their idea position. My dd is just happy to be on the field even though she excells at one particular position. She has never complained about placement and neither have I. She just wants to play. And besides, the more positions you learn the better your shot come HS.
John

 

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• Aug 2, 2009

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This is hard. I mean on one hand why punish the player for having bad softball parents?

On the other hand we all know how much the team (and parents) have to be together thoughout the year. I don't want those people around me. We had this and the coach let the player come back. FYI-my DD made the decision to leave the team. She said she had no respect for the coach. Some kids can do what they want while others are constantly proving "it" to him.

Depending on the age-let the players decide-I mean it is their team. I am all for letting the players have a vote.

 

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• Aug 2, 2009

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TheFREAK08 said:

GOOD Bye... Classless move to take you kid away because of a Position. Please My kid was a MUCH better Option at a Key position this year and the other Kid played there 85% of the Time ( I was even an assistant Coach) But I dont believe in whining about these things ( Not that I didnt scratch my head and moan now and then ALL year as the Errors piled up, i aint THAT Good ). but in the end , My daughter learned a New Position and was Great at it , and is now More Versatile for it. I say Finish what you start and do it well...whatever IT is !!

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amen brotha !!

 

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• Aug 2, 2009

• #13

Past performance is the best predictor of future behavior.

 

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• Aug 2, 2009

• #14

Isn't there a saying "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me"? It has many variations with some more colorful language, but you get the picture. Why bring them back?

 

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• Aug 2, 2009

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Quitting becomes a habit.

 

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• Aug 2, 2009

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we had our situation work out just fine.... all is relative. My experience says let her go but IIIIFFF you read the sittuation right and get honesty from all parties you may be able to bring her back. Maybe we are 1 in a million.

 

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• Aug 3, 2009

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Buckeye Heat 97 said:

Isn't there a saying "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me"? It has many variations with some more colorful language, but you get the picture. Why bring them back?

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This quote basically means "you made a mistake this time, if it happens again you will not get another chance." The parents are admitting they messed up by asking to come back.

I'm with Les and Must on this one. Sometimes things happen in the heat of the moment, and then later upon reflection they realize a mistake was made. This is about the kids and if the kid is a good kid AND gets along with the rest of the team AND the parents ARE very clear about the role of their kid on the team, I say they get a mulligan.

If the kid is is not a good teammate and the parents are a cancer, then deny their request.

Len

 

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• Aug 3, 2009

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Lenski said:

This quote basically means "you made a mistake this time, if it happens again you will not get another chance." The parents are admitting they messed up by asking to come back.

I'm with Les and Must on this one. Sometimes things happen in the heat of the moment, and then later upon reflection they realize a mistake was made. This is about the kids and if the kid is a good kid AND gets along with the rest of the team AND the parents ARE very clear about the role of their kid on the team, I say they get a mulligan.

If the kid is is not a good teammate and the parents are a cancer, then deny their request.

Len

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We may have a disagreement on what the quote actually means, but regardless, it sounds as if the parents and player have done everything they needed to make it work the 2nd time around. It appears Lester is a good judge of character!

 

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• Aug 3, 2009

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I'm wondering if they found out that the grass isn't always greener on the other side (went to another team and found out it wasn't so great). I'm glad that some have had success with this situation but I think I would be friendly but tell them that the team has moved on and so should they.

Given the amount of time and money invested, if someone is just making a snap decision to quit I'd really question the judgment (and when will it happen again).

 

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• Aug 3, 2009

• #20

A line from a song comes to mind...

Once bitten, twice shy....