Bullying

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Mean Girls: How To Combat Bullying | STACK 4W

The return to school ball and the potential for bullying begins. Why and how to overcome the bullying?

In Travel Ball it seems this **** isn't allowed and Coaches and Players handle it, but school ball is so different. Too many players tend to be followers and not leaders which only adds to the problem. How do coaches deal with the situation- ignore it or see it going on and stop it before it gets real ugly?



see article on subject.

 

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Probably the best way to deal with bullying (bullying can't be prevented necessarily) is to make sure dd is as well rounded and grounded as possible. When dd puts too much of her time and identity in one thing or social group , then the circle and pressure is hard to escape. I bet if she is bullied at softball, it would be unlikely that she would be bullied in her church youth group, key club, band, etc.
kids that age want to fit in so badly and if their only realm is the one where they are abused in then it becomes oppressive

 

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Tough question and tough situation with bullying. In my opinion physical bullying is easier to take care of than psychological bullying...easier to take care of something you can see. I agree with lewam that you can't prevent every bullying situation but you can work on your kids self esteem and to stand up against others who tries to force their will on you. I've always told my kids it takes two for bullying to occur...bully and a victim.

I dont think there there is any one answer to this situation but parents need to pay attention to their child's behavior and monitor their actions. I've told a situation where I found my child bullying through Facebook and I pulled my DD out of basketball practice (during) and she was punished promptly. The End...no basketball that year.

 

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Blue Ice- your right physical bullying is much easier to identify and deal with versus mental bullying.

What if your DD has been subjected to verbal garbage for a couple of months (parents recommended ignoring) and than the bully follows her to hitting lessons and sits in the parking lot with the intent of of intimidating her?

 

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Well she just came from hitting lessons and has a bat........hmmmmm I'm from Jersey sorry........ Sorry your Honor she just tripped like four times and as I tried to help her my bet fell on her kneecap each time......funniest thing.....

 

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You're from Jersey? I'm from Jersey!

Len

 

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Exit 9 Len, born and raised and been in Ohio since 95' go back every year twice.....Pizza, shore and Kohrs Ice cream each time !!

 

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Lol, I'm from Korea (south)...someone always asks. My kids know I would take care of physical bullying if it came to our house. We can't protect our kids 24/7 but we can give our kids the confidence and reassurance by being an example.. Always told my kids we must love yourself before you can love anyone else.

Its hard.. Real hard.

 

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Bullying and Hazing happen way too much in todays sports and schools. Sadly some coaches or parents actually participate in it. In alot of cases adults are aware of either Hazing or Bullying and do not give it the attention it deserves or think someone else will address it.
In order to have any hope to put a dent in the numbers the Coaches and Parents need to have a zero tolerance policy for such behavior. Both need to be educated on the signs especially when social media is involved. Girls that would normally not participate in hazing or bullying with direct contact can and do fall into the practice through social media outlets and the ages are getting younger.
Hazing | girlshealth.gov

http://blog.sportssignup.com/blog/bid/190355/Put-a-Stop-to-Bullying-and-Hazing-in-Youth-Sports

 

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Exit 9 Len, born and raised and been in Ohio since 95' go back every year twice.....Pizza, shore and Kohrs Ice cream each time !!

Exit 15A here. My remaining family resides in North Brunswick, Long Branch, Jackson Twp., and Toms River.

Oh.....and Kohrs is custard....lol.....and it is awesome! So is Strollo's Italian Ices! Pizza from Three Brothers....YUM!!!!! Okay, I gotta stop now! I'm homesick!

Len

 

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Anymore to protect yourself from bullying you need to be a self-confident, well rounded individual who can stand on their on 2 feet and make the conscience effort not to be a follower. This is not an easy task, but for the one who can. They need to be willing or should I say strong enough to stand up and say weare a TEAM. You need to leave the? I don?t like her?, she?s? dating my ex?etc. at the door and put the good of the team first. You leave all don't likes, isues and problems behind you when you step on to the field.
Coaches and Parents should not tolerate bullying and hazing. (However player?s parents and the coaches should not be bullies themselves.)
Remember bullying is as contagious as a cold,so coaches and players need to help be the remedy.

 

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Anymore to protect yourself from bullying you need to be a self-confident, well rounded individual who can stand on their on 2 feet and make the conscience effort not to be a follower. This is not an easy task, but for the one who can. They need to be willing or should I say strong enough to stand up and say weare a TEAM. You need to leave the? I don?t like her?, she?s? dating my ex?etc. at the door and put the good of the team first.You leave all don't likes, isues and problems behind you when you step on to the field.
Coaches and Parents should not tolerate bullying and hazing. (However player?s parents and the coaches should not be bullies themselves.)
Remember bullying is as contagious as a cold,so coaches and players need to help be the remedy.

Good points. I think sports can go a long way in stopping bullying instead of being a source of it.

Teamates should have each others backs on and off the field. Not alot different between friends and family.

I had a situation in the past where a couple players were either bad mouthing the team on social media or making a new player feel unwelcomed and bullied. I had a team meeting with just myself and the girls and told them how dissapointed I was in their behavior, when they had always been such a welcoming high character team. I decided to not call out the 2 girls, but instead address it at the team level and stressed team work and support of each other. I did make sure to make eye contact in the meeting with the girls In question, so they knew I knew. I threatened to suspend or cut players if it continued.

The great thing was that the girl that was doing the bullying, realized what she had done and went out of her way to genuinly befreind her teamate. I think this showed a high degree of character for that young lady in realizing the negative impact she had on her teammate and in trying to reverse it.

My oldest was bullied in school to the point where she does online schooling now and seeks other social avenues and has thrived. Though that road is not for everyone and we need the social interactions good or bad to respond to lifes curve balls.