My softball coach is an evil,evil man

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There sounds like at least one or maybe two bad seeds in this equation. Hate to see anyone get hurt because nobody stepped in. At worst, this Coach sounds like a jerk. Hate, Beat, Kill,,,,, this is way out of control, joking or not. Anger is what this young girl is expressing. Sounds like there could be other issues. Maybe an unexpected visit from her consoler is appropriate.

 

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Going to the principal or athletic director is not always the answer. Unfortunately, we have a similar situation at the high school my daughter attends. The Varsity coach knows nothing about coaching, has run a good program into the ground and the girls can not stand playing for him. There have been numerous complaints about him but he is friends with the AD so everything is swept under the carpet. The problem at our school is the good old boys club. It still exists and you can't get anyone to pay any attention to your concerns. There have been players on the team who have been charged with felony crimes and still have been allowed to play ball with no punishment, just because they were decent players and because their parents had some power with the school board and he was after the basketball coaching position and wanted their vote. Several players have been discriminated against by him and when their parents went to the AD, again the parents were told they were wrong and he was standing by his coach. I do understand standing by a coach if they are doing nothing wrong, but there also comes a time when you have to start listening to all the complaints and do whats right for the program and the girls, not what's right for your friendship. I do have first hand knowledge with all of this, my daughter is one that has been discriminated against and yes she is a good ball player. I could go on and on about all the rules this coach has broken with the OHSAA but we would be here all day.

 

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Flea,

Sounds like our DDs go to the same school

 

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No need for verbal abuse of kids under the age of 18 at a public high school by a school teacher/coach. It isn't acceptable in the classroom. Sports are an extension of the school. This isn't an easy question because who knows to what degree the allegations are exaggerated. If the student has a legitimate concern go with a parent to the AD and Superintendent at the same time. Stick with specifics. Ask them what is acceptable for a coach and what are the districts conduct expectations of coaches. Ask if they have received previous complaints. Assure them you are not after the coach but now that they have clearly defined what constitutes abusive coaching you will only bother them again if that line is crossed and only with specifics. This is the first step in opening communication and building a case if needed. You must do this at risk knowing there may be repercussions. You have to weigh the risk vs. ignoring the situation. If the girl is blowing smoke it's doubtful that she'll follow the steps above and if she does her lack of evidence, character and corroboration will probably be obvious and revealed over time.

 

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With all of today's technology, why don't they just video tape or voice record a practice or two?

 

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Plain and simply put if my DDs school coach verbaly abuses my DD he would have to deal with me.And as far as I know you can get bailed out of jail but not the hospital.

 

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I FEEL SO BAD FOR YOU!!!!!!!My travel coach has never done anything like that and my school softball coach is the coach that i had for volleyball so i know she wont be like that...........well anyway GOODLUCK!!!

 

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Unfotunatly, there are a few out there. They seem to think they know everything about softball too!

 

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Toledo:

It is incongruous that you advocate violence, but abhor verbal abuse. Part of any child's maturation process is learning that there are many different personality types in the world. Dealing with those different personalities in a mature way is essential if that child wants to succeed in the workplace and in relationships. The attitude that you'll put anyone who verbally abuses your daughter into the hospital sends an incredibly selfish message. You won't always be there to protect her.

 

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This is a good book to read if you have trouble dealing with an overbearing type personality. It teaches you how to determine the personality type that you are dealing with and then how to deal with them. The best part is the end, where you have to determine which one you are. It is eye opening to say the least. A good read for all ages. It's never too early to learn how to deal with people.

 

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Toledo:

It is incongruous that you advocate violence, but abhor verbal abuse. Part of any child's maturation process is learning that there are many different personality types in the world. Dealing with those different personalities in a mature way is essential if that child wants to succeed in the workplace and in relationships. The attitude that you'll put anyone who verbally abuses your daughter into the hospital sends an incredibly selfish message. You won't always be there to protect her.

I wouldn't advocate violence either but I would joke about it. I will say people say things on OFC that they would not say directly to the person they are talking about. It's called venting and I certainly have done it enough here on OFC. Once someone gets the frustration out of their system by complaining enough then they can go and deal with it in a more calm and rational manner so when someone goes off on a rant here I don't always take it at face value. Now if someone REALLY means it when talking about kicking someone's A** then thats different.

 

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Verbal abuse if vulgarities are used is called aggrivated menassing(spelling might be wrong)and is a chargable offense.

 

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Verbal abuse if vulgarities are use is called aggrivated menassing(spelling might be wrong)and is a chargable offense.

We don't worry about vulagrities on OFC. The administrators weed them out and then Bear gives them THE EYES!!

 

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Verbal abuse if vulgarities are used is called aggrivated menassing(spelling might be wrong)and is a chargable offense.

It is spelled aggravated menacing in the Ohio Revised Code, and it needs to include some threat of violence.

2903.21 Aggravated menacing.
(A) No person shall knowingly cause another to believe that the offender will cause serious physical harm to the person or property of the other person, the other person's unborn, or a member of the other person's immediate family.

However, you also have the typical menacing charge, defined as:
2903.22 Menacing.
(A) No person shall knowingly cause another to believe that the offender will cause physical harm to the person or property of the other person, the other person's unborn, or a member of the other person's immediate family.

The difference is between "physical harm" and "serious physical harm".

If it is simple (yet still serious) verbal abuse, but without the threat of physical harm, it would not be chargeable under Ohio law.

Additionally, you have a "menacing by stalking" statute as well, which may get some of the posters on the OFC in trouble!:lmao:

 

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DADDY votes this guy coach of the year!

 

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why is anybody still on this team?
if all the players leave, the jacka$$ has no team to coach