Warning this is long winded so the internet police stay calm!
This is some of the information we pass out at clinics....
"Get the hitter to believe in their abilities and not go up to the plate thinking if I am going to hit the ball but where is the defense going to give me the greatest opportunity to hit the ball so we can advance the runner or get on base!" Howard Carrier
"Baseball and softball is a game played by kids however it is orchestrated and run by adults and adults do not like to loose especially to kids or other adults!" Howard Carrier
I think Mike Schmidt said it best, "You must focus on your execution and not on the results. You've got no control of the results only on the execution. Tension comes from fear of failure, one thing you must learn to cope with in baseball; you will fail more than you will succeed."
You can hit the ball perfectly and the defense makes a perfect play, we hit the ball and executed properly, so let it go and do it again the next at bat but let it go for now, so it doesn't effect your attitude or emotions, let it go and now go play defense and focus on your execution not on the results. Do not dwell on what you just did poorly let it go!
You can not go back in time even for even a millisecond and you can not change what just happened, deal with it and let it go, so it does not effect how you play the rest of the game. We can work on it at the next practice not during the game so stay focused on the here and now.
Remember when coaching or teaching and there is a difference in my opinion, some people learn by hearing the spoken word, the written word and pictures and others by using all of the above. Some of our players have learning disabilities and are dyslexic and don't want others to know about it because they don't want to feel different or ashamed and the parents help hide it because the coaches over react when they find out.
You often wonder why some players miss the signs? Take a player behind the dugout and give them your signs and see if they truly understood it. After you have done the entire team you can make your own decision. Don't make a spectacle of that player however see what you can do to help or how you could communicate differently to help.
I know one pitcher who is dyslexic and it is an issue with getting the signs from the catcher. Live in their world for a second and understand how frustrating it must be not understanding the signs. If the catcher and pitcher can work out the signs in a way they understand it then we all win! Getting signs from the third base coach is also an issue as well when the pitcher is a base runner.
The pitcher is not stupid; she just see things differently than others. It would be a shame not to use her athleticism to your advantage as a coach. I have heard coaches call the pitcher stupid and they laugh it off and say they are having a blonde moment.
That is not fair to blondes either.