What Would You Do - Team Mistake

[Anonymous]

Have a daughter in 2nd year 16U; previous team folded due to lack of pitching (she was with that team for 3 years). She was on an A level team and joined an A level team this fall once team folded. Chose another team and I'm not sure it is a right fit. No need to go into the specifics but it is not the level she is use to playing. I really do not want to upset anyone or create animosity but I don't think our family would survive a whole season with the Team without losing our minds! I do not want her to pick up bad habits nor do I want to send her the wrong message of being a "quitter". We have a mediocre schedule which will draw college coaches but I would be embarrased at this point for a College Coach to watch them play or the activity of the dughout. Flip side is my daughter would look like a Rock Star. My first thought is to speak with Coach and let him know what I see as challenges from our perspective but I also don't want him to think badly of us either. He is a really, really nice man and I think that is part of the problem. Kids/Parents seem to take advantage of that. Not sure if we should just throw in the towel and attempt to sub the rest of the fall season or try to stay longer. Obviously with this being her 2nd year 16U my concern is getting her in front of those College Coaches she has interest.

 

[yocoach]

If you're feeling this way so early in the season, you're better off talking to the coach and tell him you appreciate the opportunity but you'll be moving on. You'll be doing him and the team a favor although they won't look at it that way. Plus you'll be much happier in the long run.

 

[daboss]

Just leave. It's what you want to do. I have no insight into this issue, coach, or team but I am curious about a couple of things. What drew you to them to begin with? Did you like what you saw or did you jump at the first opportunity that presented itself? I think some soul searching is needed here. What does your daughter want? Can you get an honest reply from her without you influencing what she really wants? Do be offended. Your entire post belittled the coach and the schedule while assuring us your family is better than this.

I see my own red flags going up.

The appearance is your motivation is for a greater cause (college softball) but we know that grades and high ACT & SAT scores are going to weigh far greater in her favor to sign a letter of intent. If she is a true blue chip candidate, she'd already be on the radar with the big programs. Yes, they are that good.........

Do some unbiased soul searching here. Be honest with yourself and with your daughter. It's a game. We all love it. We all want the best experience from it. Leave if that's what you want but leave for the right reasons. To do that you need to ask yourself why you joined them at all.