Irish196
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Tonight I was sent a go fund me link started to help with funeral expenses for a 13 year old girl from Youngstown who took her own life. Apparently there was some bullying going on. Her obituary said that the "greatest passion she had was for softball."
It broke my heart. I just don't understand how kids can be so cruel. But I do know it happens and the things that can go on in schools and on social media can be unbelievably cruel.
I know bullying or just run of the mill picking on kids will never end. However, I would hope that at least in the local softball community we could try better to help stop that kind of thing. Not just with kids but also with adults. I've seen it happen on numerous occasions - even as recently as a few weeks ago- grown adults yelling at kids (not their own) during softball games and making them break down. No wonder some of the kids follow suit seeing the adults doing it and the coaches not stopping it.
When are people going to learn that it is absolutely unacceptable to publicly humiliate kids for sports or for any reason?? Seriously, it is a sport- it is supposed to be fun and teach you lessons about life- it isn't supposed to ruin your life or make you feel like a failure. Bullying kids or humiliating them in public is not "tough love" or "tough coaching". It is just being a jerk and that can have long lasting and tragic consequences.
Everyone needs to do something. Parents need to lead by example and not talk poorly about players in front of your kids (and preferably not in front of adults either!). Parents also need to talk to kids on a consistent basis about being a good friend and good teammate and teach them the "Golden Rule" if you haven't already. Kids also need to know that they should talk to an adult if they see kids getting bullied and even "tattle" on a teammate if they say anything like "I want to kill myself".
Coaches also need to help put a stop to bullying. If you know it is happening on your team or in your school it is your responsibility to put an end to it (or notify people who can) no matter if it risks losing an "important" player (or players) or risks getting their parents upset. If you are really in this for the girls you should want all of them to have a good experience and not hate coming to play because they are afraid of what their teammates, their teammates' parents or the coaches will say or do to embarrass or hurt them.
It may be wishful thinking, but it would be nice if every girl who played softball (or any team sport) was able to have a "safe haven" in their team. Maybe that could be a goal that is just important as winning.
It broke my heart. I just don't understand how kids can be so cruel. But I do know it happens and the things that can go on in schools and on social media can be unbelievably cruel.
I know bullying or just run of the mill picking on kids will never end. However, I would hope that at least in the local softball community we could try better to help stop that kind of thing. Not just with kids but also with adults. I've seen it happen on numerous occasions - even as recently as a few weeks ago- grown adults yelling at kids (not their own) during softball games and making them break down. No wonder some of the kids follow suit seeing the adults doing it and the coaches not stopping it.
When are people going to learn that it is absolutely unacceptable to publicly humiliate kids for sports or for any reason?? Seriously, it is a sport- it is supposed to be fun and teach you lessons about life- it isn't supposed to ruin your life or make you feel like a failure. Bullying kids or humiliating them in public is not "tough love" or "tough coaching". It is just being a jerk and that can have long lasting and tragic consequences.
Everyone needs to do something. Parents need to lead by example and not talk poorly about players in front of your kids (and preferably not in front of adults either!). Parents also need to talk to kids on a consistent basis about being a good friend and good teammate and teach them the "Golden Rule" if you haven't already. Kids also need to know that they should talk to an adult if they see kids getting bullied and even "tattle" on a teammate if they say anything like "I want to kill myself".
Coaches also need to help put a stop to bullying. If you know it is happening on your team or in your school it is your responsibility to put an end to it (or notify people who can) no matter if it risks losing an "important" player (or players) or risks getting their parents upset. If you are really in this for the girls you should want all of them to have a good experience and not hate coming to play because they are afraid of what their teammates, their teammates' parents or the coaches will say or do to embarrass or hurt them.
It may be wishful thinking, but it would be nice if every girl who played softball (or any team sport) was able to have a "safe haven" in their team. Maybe that could be a goal that is just important as winning.
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