Our fees were always reasonable for what the ladies received from 10-13U so, doing a couple fundraisers paid for 75/80% of their ball with candle, candy, popcorn and working some REDS games.
After 13U the tournament cost doubled for the events we were in and we upgraded equipment/uniforms and I was not about to do year around fundraising like some teams do to cover the cost.
Now, I still had some parents that would fundraise on "their own" to offset some cost but most would just write a check because they too were tired of all the fundraising.
Then came college, Parent/ player dance, Monte Carlo/game night, DD seemed to have to work at the KFC Yum center every weekend. So like others said, It does not stop untill they stop playing...