daboss
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We've talked about this before in topics that discuss a "watered down" pool of players for travel ball and questionable teams forming. However, it has been a while since I have heard of so many trying to fill their rosters with ANY bodies let alone qualified players for the level of competition they want to play. I'm sensing a downswing in fastpitch interest as well as a downswing in youth sports in general.
I know we've seen this stuff go in cycles as athletes choose between one sport or another, but I'm seeing an overall lack of interest in our youth to participate. With fall school sports beginning I am hearing that rosters are "just enough" as the appearance is the kids are opt'ing to judge their own abilities and level of dedication and don't want to risk being cut during tryouts.
People, this is a problem. Failure is a part of life. Failure needs to be experienced to be learned. Failure helps enhance the desire to succeed. This isn't something new.
We've all seen that "super sensation" student athlete that could do almost anything effortlessly. They glide thru life. Best player. Best grades. Everyone loves them. Prom King or Queen. Pillar in their community. Then, they go to college and they're just another student, Just another player. Anxiety of being average overwhelms them and they develop insecurities and become depressed. They can't find anywhere to hide and they don't fit in anymore because they never learned how to cope. The next thing you hear is years later how terrible life is for them. Many hear the story and if they knew them as youth a sense of evil washes over you because now, you feel vindicated that you are now equal or even bettered after all this time. It's sad. Some are saddened for feeling this way. Some say they kept telling them to push themselves or they would get left behind! I told you this would happen! Bottom line; they never learned how to cope.
Today's youth, are simply avoiding the issues of failure by never trying. This is not healthy. When you take away the experience of rejection they never develop the skills to adapt or form alternative solutions. It affects their entire existence in society. It lowers the level to commitment. They avoid conflict at every turn and will quit......... Once adults, the skill to quit is honed to perfection and the sense of justification fuels them to protect their young. The kids live knowing to survive they can always quit, or better yet-------------never try. That's an even easier solution.........
Coddling today's youth by constantly defending them regardless of whether they are "right or wrong" or "good or bad" makes them soft. how can we overcome teaching them when any time you tell them they are "wrong" or "not skilled enough" they go into a totally deflated state of mind. The message is lost because we have to be concerned about their feelings.
Even the poor student or the less athletic player becomes deflated by the rejection. No different than the star that experiences the issues later in life. It's not failing to accept the reality they could be wrong or can't match up in the moment.
The same sense of failure is experienced. So, who survives the cycle? In my opinion the survivors are the ones that refuse to settle and keep trying. There's an old recruitment poster that stated "Be all you can be" and that my friends speaks volumes. If your mindset is to try harder and overcome, it has to be paired with the reality.
We all want to be happy, healthy, and rich. The reality is we have elements in life we cannot control. I had to accept I will never be President or have people wait on me and treat me like royalty. From what I see on the news, they have their own issues. I'm okay being a farmer and a coach, but I strive to be accomplished for a variety of reasons.
I know we've seen this stuff go in cycles as athletes choose between one sport or another, but I'm seeing an overall lack of interest in our youth to participate. With fall school sports beginning I am hearing that rosters are "just enough" as the appearance is the kids are opt'ing to judge their own abilities and level of dedication and don't want to risk being cut during tryouts.
People, this is a problem. Failure is a part of life. Failure needs to be experienced to be learned. Failure helps enhance the desire to succeed. This isn't something new.
We've all seen that "super sensation" student athlete that could do almost anything effortlessly. They glide thru life. Best player. Best grades. Everyone loves them. Prom King or Queen. Pillar in their community. Then, they go to college and they're just another student, Just another player. Anxiety of being average overwhelms them and they develop insecurities and become depressed. They can't find anywhere to hide and they don't fit in anymore because they never learned how to cope. The next thing you hear is years later how terrible life is for them. Many hear the story and if they knew them as youth a sense of evil washes over you because now, you feel vindicated that you are now equal or even bettered after all this time. It's sad. Some are saddened for feeling this way. Some say they kept telling them to push themselves or they would get left behind! I told you this would happen! Bottom line; they never learned how to cope.
Today's youth, are simply avoiding the issues of failure by never trying. This is not healthy. When you take away the experience of rejection they never develop the skills to adapt or form alternative solutions. It affects their entire existence in society. It lowers the level to commitment. They avoid conflict at every turn and will quit......... Once adults, the skill to quit is honed to perfection and the sense of justification fuels them to protect their young. The kids live knowing to survive they can always quit, or better yet-------------never try. That's an even easier solution.........
Coddling today's youth by constantly defending them regardless of whether they are "right or wrong" or "good or bad" makes them soft. how can we overcome teaching them when any time you tell them they are "wrong" or "not skilled enough" they go into a totally deflated state of mind. The message is lost because we have to be concerned about their feelings.
Even the poor student or the less athletic player becomes deflated by the rejection. No different than the star that experiences the issues later in life. It's not failing to accept the reality they could be wrong or can't match up in the moment.
The same sense of failure is experienced. So, who survives the cycle? In my opinion the survivors are the ones that refuse to settle and keep trying. There's an old recruitment poster that stated "Be all you can be" and that my friends speaks volumes. If your mindset is to try harder and overcome, it has to be paired with the reality.
We all want to be happy, healthy, and rich. The reality is we have elements in life we cannot control. I had to accept I will never be President or have people wait on me and treat me like royalty. From what I see on the news, they have their own issues. I'm okay being a farmer and a coach, but I strive to be accomplished for a variety of reasons.
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