ThatGuy, are you carrying some angst over from your baseball days? Grow some thicker skin, and we can have a civil discussion, because no one enjoys a lively discussion between folks with different viewpoints more than I. That is what I feel this board is about. If everyone agreed, with pats on the back and all, this would be a VERY boring world. I enjoy a lively debate, and I respect anyone who presents a dissenting viewpoint, and can back it up with proven facts and data.
I am one of those parents sitting in the bleachers and standing on the sidelines, and not a coach. I do not pretend to be an expert at anything, especially softball, so that dispels the ego trip myth. But there is one point you make that I absolutely disagree with, and that is "problem parents".
Rec coaches sometimes have the unfortunate situation of being a babysitter. That just goes with the territory. But when it comes to club ball, just one problem parent can spread a negative attitude that can destroy team unity. A club coach has no obligation whatsoever to appease that one problem parent. As a matter of fact, the coach owes it to the REST of the team to eliminate the problem. My DD worked hard to get on a respected club team, and that's why they were and still are, respected. The coach didn't put up with any BS - he expected quality athletes with a positive winning attitude at every practice and game. It's called respect, my friend, and it's a two way street. If you're coaching a 10u team, you'll find out soon enough as you progress up through the age brackets. When you get out away from community based tournaments into the more competitive arena, the bad apples, if you have any, will test your patience. I hope your skin is a little thicker by then.
Oh... and you'll also find that most of the bowling pitchers stayed back in rec league - just playing ball and having fun.