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Is this site a coaches site or can I get an honest players poll? How many coaches have out right lied to a recruited player? We just quit a team because a coach promised our dd that she would either play 1st, 3rd, or catch. She would also bat 4th. He kept his promise up until her first tourney in Dayton. We were travelling 3 hours just to get to practices down their. He also promised he would sign up for some tourneys around here. Nope. Why would you move your starting 1st &/or 3rd baseman, (depending on where he put her for that game), as well as 4th in the line-up to right field and 7th when you played against a well known select team?

If you want a poll.. then post it... Go for it..

 

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Hey Mom,
Odds are your DD won't be playing what position you think she'd play even in College. 80% of the kids who play in college will play other positions than what they did in travel. Get used to it or just sit and watch the opportunity for all around improvement pass her by.... I would never expect any team to promise my DD a specific position, a roster spot, sure, position no. The best thing to ever happen was the coaches we have played for not pigeon holeing them into one. Made them all around better players....

Good luck in looking for what you think you will find.

 

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It must have been a shock to the opposing teams to have a true #4 only hitter in the #7 spot, I am sure they were not ready for it. How many HR's, RBI's and hits did she rake in? Your DD should have really taken the opportunity to seize the moment!

 

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If you weren't looking for a team, why were you posting on every "14U team looking for a player" thread? Also, in February, you named a team your daughter played for and said she was looking for another team. So which is it? I have a feeling the coach you walked on this weekend is thanking his lucky stars. I have no sympathy for you, but I do for your daughter.

Oh yeah, by the way...We weren't even looking for a team this year. He came looking for us. She does play rec, also H.S., ACME, and summer all-stars. She hits otf 245'+. Her stats speak for her as well. I can see a coach moving a player if she is not the best player for the position, but what if she isn't. Not even saying my dd was the best. I think the coach was playing local players and for parents that complained about why their dd wasn't playing in the infield. (I just happened to hear them and...).

 

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sounds like sour grapes, did you get the romises: in writing. maybe she wasnt as good as you thought she was, or everyone else was just a bit better.. good luck next year. and hope you dont play with my kids.

 

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You know, I had to register after reading thread. I've lurked around on this board for a couple years now and never registered, but this one hit home for me. I went back and researched the threads that the original poster had replied to in order to verify my thoughts because this scenario was all too familiar. We had a girl quit my daughter's team this weekend, and lo and behold, this thread was started by the girl's parent who quit.

I won't go into what was promised to this girl, because I wasn't present for that "conversation" and frankly have no idea what was said or if that "conversation" even took place. But I will say this....if you're going to sit back and feel like your daughter deserves to be granted that much privelege regarding playing time, position preference, etc., then she better be the next Crystal Bustos. And let me tell you, I didn't see the next Bustos there this weekend. Not even close. I don't know, maybe if she'd not quit and showed up to finish the tourney, then maybe we'd all seen something different. There certainly were none of those " 245' " blasts that was referred to earlier in this thread, well, at least not from her. Sorry, but that's just the facts.

Sorry folks, but I took this thread to be extremely demeaning to the girls on this team who have worked their tails off in the off season to get where they are now, only to have someone come along and demand that their kid gets preferential treatment in her very first tournament with them. I'd like to know, how many teams has this girl played for anyway, and will their search ever end?

And if anyone wants stats, I can probably get them....



Hope you all have a great day, and this will conclude my very first post on OFC!!!

P.S. Yes, I do feel better now!

 

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Well said!!! Welcome to the world of posting!!! You will be addicted soon!
:lmao:

You know, I had to register after reading thread. I've lurked around on this board for a couple years now and never registered, but this one hit home for me. I went back and researched the threads that the original poster had replied to in order to verify my thoughts because this scenario was all too familiar. We had a girl quit my daughter's team this weekend, and lo and behold, this thread was started by the girl's parent who quit.

I won't go into what was promised to this girl, because I wasn't present for that "conversation" and frankly have no idea what was said or if that "conversation" even took place. But I will say this....if you're going to sit back and feel like your daughter deserves to be granted that much privelege regarding playing time, position preference, etc., then she better be the next Crystal Bustos. And let me tell you, I didn't see the next Bustos there this weekend. Not even close. I don't know, maybe if she'd not quit and showed up to finish the tourney, then maybe we'd all seen something different. There certainly were none of those " 245' " blasts that was referred to earlier in this thread, well, at least not from her. Sorry, but that's just the facts.

Sorry folks, but I took this thread to be extremely demeaning to the girls on this team who have worked their tails off in the off season to get where they are now, only to have someone come along and demand that their kid gets preferential treatment in her very first tournament with them. I'd like to know, how many teams has this girl played for anyway, and will their search ever end?

And if anyone wants stats, I can probably get them....



Hope you all have a great day, and this will conclude my very first post on OFC!!!

P.S. Yes, I do feel better now!

 

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i guarantee my players one thing and one thing only. That they will be better players by the end of the season. That is the only promise i make. When you try-out for a team and make it, you have earned a spot on the team not a position in the field. My players are told up front that they will learn 3 positions...outfield, infield, and the bench. By pulling your kid because she didn't get a position she was promised, you aren't teaching her a good lesson. Make her work harder for what she wants instead of quitting and looking for a sure thing. It's her first year in travel ball, she has to take her lumps. If you pull her everytime she isn't starting where you want her to, she will get a bad name and believe me, people talk!!

love it!!!!

 

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Not her first season and not the first time hearing parents just like me. I guess they are just too afraid to put it in "writing". I however believe I am teaching my daughter NOT to take **** off anybody. Her power is to believe in her self, not that someone thinks she's not good enough so try harder. Sorry you didn't see the game, but the first 4 games on this team she played 3rd & 1st and made no errors. 1st, 2nd, & short made plenty. I mean come on, if a 1st baseman can't catch a ball thrown right at her at perfect tag level???????? When he switched her to first for an inning she didn't have any errors. I smell coaches and butt kissers. Like I said, I don't put my kid on a travel team just to say she is. I put her there to get more experience. She has played fall ball at the local college for H.S. players for 3yrs. now. She's a freshman this year. The college coach has already offered her a spot. She's not good enough?

 

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... I however believe I am teaching my daughter NOT to take **** off anybody. Her power is to believe in her self, not that someone thinks she's not good enough so try harder. ... The college coach has already offered her a spot. She's not good enough?

Here is the most telling quote, so your daughter is so good she doesn't have to work harder to improve? I'm guessing that college coach is out there at UCLA. Has she promised you SS and clean-up yet?

I'm not a coach but I've been around travel ball for 9 years now and I've seen dozens of parents like you but usually at the rec ball level where so many kids are superstars.

Let me know where your daughter lands, I'd love to be able to say I saw the next Bustos play.

Can you please explain how you came to feel so entitled as to expect treatment that no one else would have the balls to request?

 

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She's a freshman this year. The college coach has already offered her a spot. She's not good enough?

Someone alert the NCAA!:lmao:

 

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i just had a brain smart--sponser and coach your own team, that way she can play wherever and whenever you decide shes worthy.

 

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anniball: .....and you wouldn't need ANY other players!

My husband was assistant varsity coach this year. We dealt with a lot of parents like this mommy, they are the type that make the kids miserable and ruin the game of softball.

I feel sorry for her daughter, I really do. I would bet my life, (not literally) that she is not the player her mother portrays, and saddest of all, the poor kid will be a mess.

I really feel for the daughter.

 

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One more point...the mother better hope that the college coach doesn't see her posts on here---she will revoke her "offer".

 

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Someone alert the NCAA!:lmao:

If a player makes a visit on campus, official or unofficial many coaches will express intrest in them attending at that time. It is just a verbal on both sides and does not mean a whole bunch

 

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MOM, I'm sorry you feel jilted, somehow cheated. I teach my DD to stand up for herself as well and not to take @#$% off no body, but I also teach her that for every action there is a reaction. Not everything in life is fair, in school, workplace and and yes even community sports. Will you always be there for her? And I will honestly say that no college coach wants a quitter on their team. Good luck.

 

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No, you have taught your daughter that it's okay to throw a hissy fit when things don't go her way. Parents like you can totally ruin a team. You want to nitpick the other players and their errors and b!tch about what your daughter isn't getting. If your daughter goes on to play college and gets benched a game, you gonna make her quit so she don't have to take **** off of anyone? I am curious, how many 245 foot homers did she slam this past weekend?

Not her first season and not the first time hearing parents just like me. I guess they are just too afraid to put it in "writing". I however believe I am teaching my daughter NOT to take **** off anybody. Her power is to believe in her self, not that someone thinks she's not good enough so try harder. Sorry you didn't see the game, but the first 4 games on this team she played 3rd & 1st and made no errors. 1st, 2nd, & short made plenty. I mean come on, if a 1st baseman can't catch a ball thrown right at her at perfect tag level???????? When he switched her to first for an inning she didn't have any errors. I smell coaches and butt kissers. Like I said, I don't put my kid on a travel team just to say she is. I put her there to get more experience. She has played fall ball at the local college for H.S. players for 3yrs. now. She's a freshman this year. The college coach has already offered her a spot. She's not good enough?

 

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my question would be....did you look around at this tourney and see the caliber of softball being played? How did your daughter hit against these pitchers? Was she a homerun hitter this weekend? Or did she find that hitting 245 in a rec ball league doesn't make you a fourth spot batter at this level? Maybe...just maybe...you heard what you wanted to hear from this coach. Finally, when things weren't working how your daughter thought they would...how did she respond? Did your daughter step up to talk with the coach herself...to get a good answer to her questions...or did you, MOM, just respond emotionally?

 

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As travel coaches, we see alot of selfish parents who want their kids to be the star of the show and they can ruin a team in no time flat. There is alot of time, money, and commitment put into travel ball and everyone, coaches, players, and parents all need to have a common goal, the development of the players and the advancement of the team. If even 1 person has only their own daughter in mind, it blows the whole thing to hell. That is why these ladies play at such a high level of ball, because they DO NOT have the me attitude, they are playing for their teams and are willing to do what is necessary for the good of the team. Having the right attitude is just as important as having the talent and if you don't have one or the other, you won't last in travel ball. My suggestion, go back to rec and let your dd hit the 300' homers and shine like a star because that is what you are looking for, not her actually learning the game. Haven't you ever heard the saying....Play for the name on the front of your jersey, not the name on the back!!!

 

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Julie
AMEN !