My DD was mislead by a coach in 14U. She was told the she and his daughter (this isn't going where you are assuming it is...LOL) would be sharing the pitching duties and would be playing first base when not pitching. Well, then along comes pitcher #3 with a loud mouth dad who was in the coaches ear the whole season (actually tried calling her pitches from the bleachers over what the coach was calling from the dugout). Not only did my DD not get a lot of pitching time, neither did the coaches DD because he pitched #3 just to shut her dad up. #3 wasn't too bad, but very very few games were won with her in the circle. Most games won were with either my DD or coaches DD in the circle - they were truly the best 2 (coaches DD was a true #1 - she deserved the most pitching time).
So, what ended up with this team was a bunch of ticked off parents (except those of #3) who couldn't understand what the heck the coach was thinking. He wasn't used to dealing with parents like that and he honestly didn't know what to do.
When my DD expressed her displeasure with how things were going - we told her to talk to the coach - we stayed out of it (and still do - she scheduled her tryouts and we provided a little advice and assistance in the selection of a team, but the final decision was hers). At 14 years old, she was old enough to fight for herself and be responsible for herself. However, after the discussin with the coach, not a whole lot changed, like I said - this was a first year 14U coach who had been very fortunate to not have to deal with crappy parents before and he was lost. However, our DD never, even for a minute, considered quitting the team that she had committed to and who was counting on her to be there. It may not have been what she was "promised", but she gave 100% wherever and whenever asked and the next year, we moved on. The org. she plays for now is a smaller group, more local talent, great girls, great coach, great parents. No, she may not be on an "elite" team thats going to blow everybody away at tournaments, but she's on a team where she will learn, have fun, make new friends and play a lot of ball with this summer and as long as she is happy with that - I'm tickled to death.