COMPETE or NOT TO COMPETE, that is the question

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Over the last several years I've been aware of a few scenarios in which teams chalked with talent and loads of potential end up having "a" family/player leave for the simple reason, their kids position is being challenged and the status quo is no longer valid.

MY QUESTION IS:

Is there ever a valid reason to pick-up and leave instead of have your dd compete for her position?

I'm thinking there could be a reason or two that leaving makes sense, but I haven't figured them out yet.

In two of these scenarios, my assumptions were proven true as to when said Team Hoppers was then challenged a second time, yep, they bailed again to a team that had a spot ready and waiting.

I know people leave teams every year for many VALID reasons, but this one reason is the ONE reason I take serious issue with as it shows complete lack of follow thru on a commitment made not to mention stolen opportunities from girls that were competing for the duration the Team Hopper was there.

Maybe it's just me and I like putting my DDs thru the fire to become their vary best. ?????????????????????

 

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Over the last several years I've witnessed a few scenarios in which teams chalked with talent and loads of potential end up having "a" family/player leave MID-SEASON for the simple reason, their kids position is being challenged and the status quo is no longer valid.

MY QUESTION IS:

Is there ever a valid reason to pick-up and leave instead of have your dd compete for her position?

I'm thinking there could be a reason or two that leaving makes sense, but I haven't figured them out yet.

In two of these scenarios, my assumptions were proven true as to when said Team Hoppers was then challenged a second time, yep, they bailed again to a team that had a spot ready and waiting.

I know people leave teams every year for many VALID reasons, but this one reason is the ONE reason I take serious issue with as it shows complete lack of follow thru on a commitment made not to mention stolen opportunities from girls that were competing for the duration the Team Hopper was there.

Maybe it's just me and I like putting my DDs thru the fire to become their vary best. ?????????????????????

I agree with you compete.......I have only pulled my DD once. Circumstances where that she was trying to get more playing time, coach said she needed to try harder and show him more at practice. So she put out alot more effort to try to earn the spot to play more, and it made no difference. The coaches had their minds made up as to who would and wouldnt play. At the time money was tight so I did pull her. Not something I would normally do. But paying out all the money and gas for travelling and she is sitting the bench all the time........not worth it.

 

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Great post tripplethreat!

You make some great points, and I look forward to discussing it with you face to face at Smith Park this weekend.

See you then!

 

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Leaving a team because your dd doesn't get the position she wants is a load of bull!! All the girls should have to earn their positions on the field or else complacency sets in. There are a few valid reasons to leave a team mid-season, but that is NOT one of them. Any parent who backs this logic up and allows the girl to leave is just setting their kid up for a lifetime of disappointment. Failure is one of the best lessons a kid can learn. It sukks to lose, that is why hard work is so important. Life is not fair and you don't always get what you want, the sooner you learn that the better.

 

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If you had a team loaded with talent why would you bring in another girl to compete for a spot? If you had a hole in your line-up you should have filled it during try outs and told the weaker girl to take a hike or offered her a reduced role.People are paying too much money to have their kids sit the bench after making the team.

 

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If you had a team loaded with talent why would you bring in another girl to compete for a spot? If you had a hole in your line-up you should have filled it during try outs and told the weaker girl to take a hike or offered her a reduced role.People are paying too much money to have their kids sit the bench after making the team.

That is a GREAT point, in one scenario a team expanded in fall to carry a larger number of players, which meant more competition. Some chose to leave opposed to compete. But that was in the fall, when people should be making decisions.

The other scenario I mentioned of past years, there was just healthy growth and development occuring within team, in which some players were no longer the best at their spot because other kids simply developed their skills more or puberty hit and power/speed increases occur... several different situations.

 

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We had a player leave last year about mid-season to get more PT then what we were giving her... the problem is that most time the parents never come to the coach and ask what areas the player needs to improve in order to 'win' more PT. As disruptive as it is - I am ok with it if it is better for the kid in the long run - but it teaches them a bad lesson in that flight is better than fight.

We had a girl leave her 11u team this year after the first tourney - she started and played 2 full games, hit only in 1 and play 1/2 a game - mom pulled her on Monday. Wow.

Again, almost all times it is the parent that creates the situation not the kid ... my son wanted to quit his HS team - I told him no problem - go see your coach first and ask why he was not playing, etc.. address the problem before quitting. He did, they worked thru it and he stayed.