I guess our dd has been lucky. She didn't start playing softball until she was 10. Played on her first travel ball team at 12, and started pitching lessons in August when she was 11. She pitched part of the time on her last year in OGSO when she was 12. The first time she was a full-time pitcher was her first year at 14U. She must be doing something right. (I'm sorry for the bragging.) So far in her TB team's fall and winter tournaments she's hitting .400, and is one of the top pitchers. If you love the game and are willing to work to get better, good things will happen.