OK Since I have a personal insight into what when and why some kids want to pursue a higher level of travel ball. Let me give u my dd's credentials first.
12u. Played With the lasers silver as a 11 year old -finished in top 10 at the ASA/USA 12U nationals tourney. Todd wallace coaching. He brought in numerous college coaches to train and workout an already talent laden team. Folded because of parent disagreements
12U and 14U. Played with Ohio Slammers as a 12-13 year old. Whew, what a team. Bill Lilley brought in a crazy amount of college coaches and had college level training for the girls that made them VERY good. Team folded because of parent disagreements. (personal opinions of Mr Lilley vary, but he was never anything but respectful and professional to my daughter and my family). Finished in top 15 at ASA nationals.
14U - Ohio Lasers Scarlet, WOW. JP had those girls laser focused and ready to rock, he put the girls in situations that they had never been in before. Challenging, crazy training, type stuff. My dd fed off of it and grew enormously. She had the bug, the big game bug. She decided then and there that she wanted to be in the big games with the big girls playing the highest level of softball she could possibly play in. Finished in top 25 ASA nationals
16U - Bill Conroy called (the beverly bandits). (i guess my dd might have started this bandits trend!)He had heard of her and seen her play. Although he was brutally honest about her skill set, he thought she could play on the national circuit and he committed to her to make her better if she would commit to herself to do the same. We told her it wasn't our decision, since Bill had asked her, and asked for her commitment, it was her call. She was salivating for more of what she had received the past few years, in the way of training, focus, and games against all the big name teams. OC bat busters SO Cal athletics, Corona Angels etc etc. she longed to go against the best. After she had made her choice, we found a way to get her where SHE wanted be. It was not easy, and to think that you have to be financially loaded to accomplish this is completely untrue. We got help from other parents, drove quite a few miles, and scrimped as much as we could. But isn't that what parents do?
Now onto the original question. My dd wanted to be the best she could. She did her part, she worked hard, she didn't complain, she pushed us as parents to help her. We told her we weren't interested if her work ethic didn't equal our commitment monetarily. Yeah we gave up a lot in the way of dinners out, not having the fanciest clothes, the car we have has 150000 on it, but we were able to do it. She surpassed her commitment to us, and then some. Now as a college freshman she is loving the college experience. Getting good grades, doing well on the field, and more importantly, she is setting up her life for after softball.
See, the lessons we were able to participate n with her will guide her through her life... it's not about going to Chicago Louuuu, and bragging to the neighbors like you so nastily put in ur reply, but what the kid gets out of it and carries thru to her kids and others. I gladly gave up 5 years to make a better daughter. Yeah I am broke now, but oh we'll, you only have one shot!
Herb