Didn't see that coming, WOW!!!
Somebody from the Bama program should notify the girl as an act of good faith. I realize the young lady probably wanted to play for Murphy but it would be unprofessional for an outgoing coach to communicate with a player that was being recruited for the school. Personally, I hate she is hurting but this is a part of life many of us face in modern day times. Unfortunately, computers can make things very impersonal leaving many numb to the events that take place.
Hang in there, things will work out with time. Murphy seems like a stand up guy. I'm sure he considered the girls he was recruiting when making his decision but again, for professional reasons his hands were probably tied.