Playing at the A level

[03softballfan]

My daughters current team is 12 team that has a great core of good kids. Never expected huge politics at this level of travel. My daughter I's one of the core players but the parent drama is so bad. Coaching is good but also plays favoritism an who ever cries the loudest. All this fuels the drama.

What would be better remove yourself from the situation an move to another team or stick it out for the season?
Even if another team may be to a lower level would that be better option?

 

[Westler33]

I would say whatever makes your DD happy because that is what it is all about letting your child play a game that is supposed to be fun. If it's not fun then they will not enjoy doing it and will eventually stop playing.

 

[FastBat]

Ask your daughter, it's for her, not the parents. That being said, you're only human, how much can you take! There's no right or wrong answer here, you just get through it.
Good luck!

 

[wow]

Be careful here.. All teams have drama and politics.. Make sure you are playing the best schedule, have solid coaching, and meeting the goals you and your daughter are looking to meet. Everything else i would not worry about, especially at 12u...

 

[ApogeeDemon]

Communication! Before you hit the road, you need to address your concerns with the coach. Many times the coach has NO idea what happens behind the fence. If the problem persists, at least you have a foundation as to why you left. Not fair to the coach if you just up and leave without ever voicing concerns.

 

[spartansd]

I have said this until I am blue in the face.

The second your focus is what happens off the field you are in serious trouble.

So ask yourself if you were standing away from all the parents and just watching this team do you still have issues? If the answer is yes then you need to address those concerns in the proper way (meeting, extra lessons, leave team....options limitless). But if the answer is no then do not become part of the off field problems. Be positive and support your coaches and other players. Do not fall into the trap of comparing players or complaining.

Every year there are 1-3 sets of parents that decide that they are going to complain about stuff that has nothing to do with the play in the field. They begin to create conflict and issues over all the unimportant things. It is just part of the game at the 10U-14U level. Now this generally goes away at the 16U level.

 

[Run26]

I would say whatever makes your DD happy because that is what it is all about letting your child play a game that is supposed to be fun. If it's not fun then they will not enjoy doing it and will eventually stop playing.

Unfortunately, sports in general, don't actually become "fun" until 16U. At 12U everyone is college bound

 

[cobb_of_fury]

So ask yourself if you were standing away from all the parents and just watching this team do you still have issues? If the answer is yes then you need to address those concerns in the proper way (meeting, extra lessons, leave team....options limitless). But if the answer is no then do not become part of the off field problems. Be positive and support your coaches and other players. Do not fall into the trap of comparing players or complaining.

If these issues do not DIRECTLY affect you or your daughter - Get yourself a nice seat in the outfield away from the crowd and just enjoy the games -you will find the gamse are much better from there.

 

[Westler33]

Nothing wrong with being a centerfield fan. Except on a lot of the fields you play on are slowpitch fields and are 300'+ and it gets a little hard to see without a telescope. lol

 

[manitoudan]

Communication! Before you hit the road, you need to address your concerns with the coach. Many times the coach has NO idea what happens behind the fence. If the problem persists, at least you have a foundation as to why you left. Not fair to the coach if you just up and leave without ever voicing concerns.

ApogeeD offers solid advice. TALK TO THAT COACH !! You might actually help him or her out . The accusation or appearance that the coach is playing " favs" may or may not be true , at least in the eyes of the coach . I can promise you exactly what happened to me as a coach is being described by Apogee.... had zero idea what was brewing behind the fences , until it was far far too late to address . COMMUNICATE !

 

[The Dude]

Get yourself a nice seat in the outfield away from the crowd and just enjoy the games -you will find the gamse are much better from there.

This quote is fabulous! Two thumbs up if I could! This is exactly where the wife and I sit, except the odd occasion that the coaches need my help. There was parent drama on our team last summer and already this fall, as I am sure there is on every team. I'm friendly with all of our coaches, and when they spoke privately with me about both situations, I honestly had no idea what in the world was going on. Pretty much exactly how we'd prefer it to be. Believe me, if I see something wrong on the field I will bring it up to our coaches, ie: the cutoff man needs to give the goalpost target signal, but never in a way that I'm out to cause trouble. I think the coaches respect that we are about the game, and not the BS. Been a coach myself in both boys and girls sports, and for some reason, girls sports are a ton worse, when it comes to drama from parents. It's amazing too, because the talent gap in girls sports is a lot wider than in boys sports. Any objective person will tell you the same.

 

[Louuuuu]

This quote is fabulous! Two thumbs up if I could! This is exactly where the wife and I sit, except the odd occasion that the coaches need my help. There was parent drama on our team last summer and already this fall, as I am sure there is on every team. I'm friendly with all of our coaches, and when they spoke privately with me about both situations, I honestly had no idea what in the world was going on. Pretty much exactly how we'd prefer it to be. Believe me, if I see something wrong on the field I will bring it up to our coaches, ie: the cutoff man needs to give the goalpost target signal, but never in a way that I'm out to cause trouble. I think the coaches respect that we are about the game, and not the BS. Been a coach myself in both boys and girls sports, and for some reason, girls sports are a ton worse, when it comes to drama from parents. It's amazing too, because the talent gap in girls sports is a lot wider than in boys sports. Any objective person will tell you the same.

"The Dude abides!"

 

[Dad of Daughters]

"The Dude abides!"

If we all just sipped Caucasians in our robes while watching DD's play, the travel ball world would be a better place.

 

[BulldawgsDirector]

If we all just sipped Caucasians in our robes while watching DD's play, the travel ball world would be a better place.

Ummm, sipping Caucasians is probably not the best practice. Nor concoctions.
Nothin like an ice cold glass of white people!
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[cobb_of_fury]

If we all just sipped Caucasians in our robes while watching DD's play, the travel ball world would be a better place.

i compactly udder stained - I hat speal cheque-

 

[SMc4SMc]

At first glance I say whatttt??? (high voice) then my cupholder skills kick in and I infer white russian minus half the cream = caucasian.
But at first glance it had ice skates on and I could see it was on a nice slope.

 

[Dad of Daughters]

Impact and cobb: I'm not illiterate or incapable of using spell check, you missed the movie reference, and a true cinematic classic at that. You should ask The Google what the rest of us are referring to....."It's a league game, Smokey."

 

[BulldawgsDirector]

I get it: They're calling the cops, put the piece away

 

[cobb_of_fury]

I am saddly Embarrassed - Sorry about that DAD... I checked out that google thing on the old interweb and found this;
Enjoy the Dudeness here: http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xo6y5_the-big-lebowski-trailer_shortfilms

I missed it -

But for those who would like to drink along at home:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8UGger0AoYw&feature=player_detailpage

 

[Dad of Daughters]

I am saddly Embarrassed - Sorry about that DAD... I checked out that google thing on the old interweb and found this;
Enjoy the Dudeness here: http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xo6y5_the-big-lebowski-trailer_shortfilms

I missed it -

But for those who would like to drink along at home:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8UGger0AoYw&feature=player_detailpage

No worries at all, just like The Dude, I try to roll with things! Depending on what you're trying drink away, you can substitute Bailey's or any kind of Irish Cream in place of the heavy cream or half and half. That's called a Blind Russian. You know, for those times you're not interested in feeling your face anymore. I hope my mom isn't reading this...