Senior party - Freshman daughter

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My dd goes to a small school, made 3 varsity sports.

She got invited to a senior party at a hotel on a friday night.

I all ready made my choice if she is going or not. ? No!

Wanted to hear your opinion's.

YES or NO ? ?does your dd ?go? ? ?



Straightleg

 

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A little short on information. Is the party chaperoned, and by who? I would have to know that before I let my DD go if she were a senior, much less a freshman. I realize that problems can and do arise at parties hosted at home, and in a few short months a senior is headed off to college. That doesn't mean I have to sanction going into a situation that has a high probability of problems.

Just one fools opinion

 

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I never got the information on if the parents of the senior having it would be there. ?I did not plan on letting my dd go, even though she is a good student and trustworthy.
Just too many things can happen at a senior party with probaly some adult beverages there.

I never went to a senior party at a hotel were parents were there. I just assumed no they would not be there, just pay for the room.


I do know that 3 of her freshman friends are going, maybe allot more.


That is why I am asking other parents. ?

Straightleg

 

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FRESHMAN, ARE YOU NUTS! HELL NO!! I CANT BELIEVE YOU OPENED THIS UP FOR DISCUSSION!

 

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Leg, sounds like you have a responsible DD, im sure you wouldnt have anything to worry about. But that doesnt mean all the attendees will act the same especially with the chance of alcohol being present.

 

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As a high school teacher I say no, unless you get enough information to show more than adequate supervision. ?Also, I would make sure no alcohol will be present. ?You have to make sure somehow that even if the parents say that it will be chaperoned that they will be physically present.

Is the party in a ballroom? ?Are they renting rooms to stay the night? ? What are the hours? ?We have had a 17 year old boy die this past winter at a party where the supervision was pretty much non-existent. ?The parents of the house are ?now facing serious charges. ?

Boys with alcohol can make force many a bad situation. ?Of course, all of this is something I am passionate about. ?I am our school's SADD Advisor and have read and heard about too many stories.

As I said though, if it is centered in one room, if the students are to be going home, if it is going to be well-chaperoned, if you are going to be guaranteed no alcohol will be present... ?

 

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I say let her go.................................................. but only if you can go with her. ? ?If there are chaperones there - you ?have someone to talk to. ?If not, then you are the chaperone. ?Rent a policeman's outfit -it can only help.

 

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I have learned something over the years...if that still small voice in my head is telling me something, LISTEN.
Did I lock the door??? Go check!
Did I turn off the coffee pot???? Go check!
You kids are too quiet, what are you doing??? Go find out!
Hmmmm, is it safe to let my Freshmen go to a party in a hotel room with Seniors???? No!

If you have enough doubt to ask the question, you must have a reason.

 

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NO WAY!!!
I remember "back in the day" the high school parties. They were wild back then, I can only imagine how they are now. I have a few years before I have to worry about this issue, and I am not looking forward to those battles.

 

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AHHHHHGGG, I'm not looking forward to these days.... Three girls 12, 9, 5 (on knucklehead boy 13). If my kids do half the stuff I did...I'LL KILL 'EM!!!!!!

 

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If you don't have enough info about the supervision I would say there's a snowballs chance in ---- she goes.

Mike

 

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This is something that will happen to every parent here.

Like i said three of her freshman friends are going. How many more I dont know. Not all parents think like we do.


What are the chances of a senior bringing beer or something

If any of the underclassmen get in trouble, I think they might get suspended from playing sports. Ouch if you kid was there as just "part of the crowd."

Straightleg

 

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Ever heard of "guilt by association?" ?Being present in a place where underage drinking occurs can result in suspension and arrest. ?How much does she want to gamble on not getting caught? ?Ideally you should explain all the possible outcomes in a way that she decides for herself not to attend. ?Then again, it may be easier on her if she can't go "because my dad won't let me."

 

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Working for a hotel chain, too many parents rent a room and leave and let the kids run wild. Nothing better than having a police officer go with you to knock on a door and the ignorant loud mouth 18 year kid states. It's our Parent's room and what we do is our business. Then the officer states, well since your over 18 and there is open beer in the room, with no one of age any where on premises, you are contributing to the deliquency of a minor regardless of who rented the room.

This goes on every weekend this time of year....

Stay away from that situation ....

 

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I THOUGHT THIS WAS A FORUM ?ABOUT SOFTBALL, NOT TEENAGE PREGNACY, SHUT UP ALREADY

This is the general forum and you can post anything you wish here. Is this softball related? Well, FP softball is played by pre-teens, teenager and post teenagers - so this is in many ways related to softball. To focus on the sport and ignore the issues the girls face is, in my opinion, being short sighted. I raised 4 girls and somehow I managed to survive that ordeal, (and so did they) though I wouldn't wish that experience on to many people.

I will say this, I would not want to be a teen today. It was hard enough when I was young.

 

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I totally agree. To know the player you must know the person. All players want to be treated the same, but in reality every player is different. Knowing what buttons to push or not push can make or break a coach (or parent).

 

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[quote author=PANTHER85 link=1211667660/0#11 date=1211686308]I THOUGHT THIS WAS A FORUM ?ABOUT SOFTBALL, NOT TEENAGE PREGNACY, SHUT UP ALREADY

This is the general forum and you can post anything you wish here. ?Is this softball related? ?Well, FP softball is played by pre-teens, teenager and post teenagers - so this is in many ways related to softball. ?To focus on the sport and ignore the issues the girls face is, in my opinion, being short sighted. ?I raised 4 girls and somehow I managed to survive that ordeal, (and so did they) though I wouldn't wish that experience on to many people.

I will say this, I would not want to be a teen today. ?It was hard enough when I was young.



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I agree. This forum is kind of like listening to a radio station. If you don't like the topic, go to another, and don't post on it.

 

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Johnnies well said.



Thanks
Straightleg

 

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When I was a freshman in hs I went to a party in a hotel. Guess where I ended up...... That's right...at the police station with my mom on the way!! I didn't drink but EVERYONE else did. Guilty by association!! It really doesn't matter how trustworthy your dd is. She will be just as guilty as any one else. These parties get out of hand very quickly (I know)! Don't let her go!

 

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NO WAY!!!
I remember "back in the day" the high school parties. ?They were wild back then, I can only imagine how they are now. ?I have a few years before I have to worry about this issue, and I am not looking forward to those battles.

Where those one room class rooms back then Pickmom.