Having an older one who has played on teams that dad's have coached, the organization she has been with (Stingrays) has had dad's coaching them and I would have her play for those coaches the full time, if she was eligible to if she didn't have to move up. Even on OFC I have PM'd folks that were thinking of trying out for them to jump at the chance!
Even when she moved up, the two she has had the last two years, have been as fair as anyone could ask and we wouldn't change a thing as they have taught her many things about softball and have busted their A$$es for the girls.
Maybe it's an organization thing, but we wouldn't have changed it for the world with her and are embarking on another journey with our younger one on the Buckeye Heat's 16's who do not have kids playing, so we shall see and like what we have seen so far...
The best thing for them was when I stopped coaching them, so they could learn more from people that know more about the game than I ever would have known.. I used to take them out of the games first, to be fair to the other girls and sometimes not fair to my own....
Don't pigeon hole all coaches with kids in one box.....