Tryout rejection fallout

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From experience, the Coach from the team that passed your dd won't recognize your dd as someone that came to their tryouts.



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I have a funny story about this type of thing. My daughter was passed over on a team, which she was ok with, it happens. But we played said team in an elimination game, our other pitcher got us into a pickle and we were down on them 7-1, her coach put her in. Guess what she held those girls scoreless and struck out some homerun hitters, while her offense came back and beat them. 8-7. Trust me they remembered her, you could see it on their faces as she went through the line at the end. It also helps she has a unique name but she won graciously and earned some respect that day. Which made all the difference in the world for a pitcher coming back from an injury.

 

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Michael Jordan sound familiar???? believe he was cut as well...seems he wasnt short term... Cant say his work ethic prior to High School but your statement isnt 100% accurate

Different sport same motivation....

Micheal Jordan wasn't cut, that's an urban legend. He did have to play JV his frosh and Soph years though.

 

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Micheal Jordan wasn't cut, that's an urban legend. He did have to play JV his frosh and Soph years though.

Really ???? Darn, now I guess I will have to start using Charlie Sheen for motivation. I know he was cut only to get another show on FX. :lmao:

 

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Micheal Jordan wasn't cut, that's an urban legend. He did have to play JV his frosh and Soph years though.

agreed. This was a rumor Jordan perpetuated at least partly because he was PO'D that he wasnt INITIALLY put on the varsity team. I think he ended up making it that same season if I recall correctly.

Of course, this may still support the argument that he derived at least some of his motivation throughout his career from this occasion.

 

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agreed. This was a rumor Jordan perpetuated at least partly because he was PO'D that he wasnt INITIALLY put on the varsity team. I think he ended up making it that same season if I recall correctly.

Of course, this may still support the argument that he derived at least some of his motivation throughout his career from this occasion.

Maybe, but he didn't make it as a freshman either... I think it more had to do with growing 4-5 inches and gaining 40lbs between his Soph and Jr years then not making varsity as a soph.

 

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I just think using anger or revenge as motivation is short lived. As time passes after the percieved slight, the less you think about it.

 

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Maybe, but he didn't make it as a freshman either... I think it more had to do with growing 4-5 inches and gaining 40lbs between his Soph and Jr years then not making varsity as a soph.

I think he ended up on the Varsity as a sophomore later that season before his growth spurt. He was simply too good and never let them forget their initial decision. I'll have to read up.

Of course, there will probably never be another talent like MJ.

To me there is a difference between revenge/anger and good natured motivation and a bit of extra determination.

 

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Back to the original topic. Sometimes it is just not the right fit or not the right time. I think alot times that type of motivation winds up with the girl playing worse. As a parent you may want to circle those games, but I really think the kid plays better when they are downplayed.

 

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I just think using anger or revenge as motivation is short lived. As time passes after the percieved slight, the less you think about it.

Words of wisdom Uber. I can also tell you it never works to root against a team. Bad guys always win. Moral of the story - keep it positive

 

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earth to parents! the reason your kid didnt make a team is becuse they werent good enough period! now you want to seak revenge on them teams! it shows you your kids aint as good as you think they are. i bet you all want the revenge more then your kid does. it is sad. quit thinkin your kids are better then they really are and deal with the team your kid made. they probally aint as good as the team that cut your kid but so what at least your kid gets to play. you people need to get real with yourself and take the kiddygoggels off. they just flat out aint near as good as you think they are. you people make me laugh.

 

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I kept my kiddy goggles on when my daughter did get cut and looks like it turned out O.K.

If we took it off who would encourage them? My DD never looked for a revenge but she always played hard.

 

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Um, nice grammar moron. You aint too bright eh?

 

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earth to parents! the reason your kid didnt make a team is becuse they werent good enough period! now you want to seak revenge on them teams! it shows you your kids aint as good as you think they are. i bet you all want the revenge more then your kid does. it is sad. quit thinkin your kids are better then they really are and deal with the team your kid made. they probally aint as good as the team that cut your kid but so what at least your kid gets to play. you people need to get real with yourself and take the kiddygoggels off. they just flat out aint near as good as you think they are. you people make me laugh.

This comment made me laugh... Proofreading is always recommended.

 

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Hard to take him/her seriously isn't it? ;&

 

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"If you fail to prepare, prepare to fail"

 

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My DD was cut from a team when she was 12u. It was her first attempt to jump from rec to travel. She didn't get a call back. This past summer she faced this organization and shut them out twice as a pitcher as a 2nd year 14u. At first, I felt some sense of gratification with her doing so, but then, after some careful reflection I realized that the coach that cut her had moved onto another organization, and 2 years ago, my DD couldn't bunt, field well, or even soft toss with wiffle balls. So looking back, she DESERVED to get looked over. She is a better overall player now, and daddy goggles are much clearer now with a much wider aperture, if you know what I mean...

 

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In Jenny Finch's book Throw Like a Girl she talks about the coach who told her at age 12 she didn't have what it took to be a pitcher. How would you like to be that guy now?!?

 

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There are two primary reasons why a girl doesn't make a team she tries out for ... one is that the team either doesn't need the position she plays, while another is that, in the coaches' eyes, she isn't as good as either other girls who tried out or at the level of play as the rest of the girls on the team. My daughter tried out for a team when she was 15 as a pitcher, and she was told that they liked her, but that they already had 3 pitchers on the team and she wasn't head and shoulders above them, and that she could have an outfield position with the team if she wanted it. We were disappointed, but appreciated the honesty and feedback (a year later she tried out again and became their #1 pitcher), and she found another team that was a good fit. In the meantime, had we played that team during that season, you can be sure she would have been pumped for that opportunity and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. We talk about softball mirroring real life sometimes ... those kind of things happen in real life as well, and if you're not motivated by those kind of experiences, then in my mind you're just not very competitive. Give me competitive every day of the week ...

 

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Mydd, at 11, played for a coach who very rarely got the team together to practice. She pitched for him once, and then mostly sat the bench. She wanted so badly to pitch. I told her that for that to happen she would have to practice without being told. Everyday she would ask me to take her to the fields to throw and to do some field work. So I did. By the last couple tournaments she was better than any of the pitchers he had. So at the last tournament, last game, none of his 3 pitchers were effective. So my dd asked if she could try, and he flat out said no. We were run ruled that game. The next season he moved up to 14U but his assistant stayed down. My dd tried out for serveral teams and got offers from all, so when the assistant coach called and told us that if she came back she would be his number 2, I laughed and said "then you haven't seen her pitch". It turned out the the team she was playing on played her old team in the first tournament, first game! She asked her coach if she could pitch that game and he gave her the ball for that game. Her team beat them. I got a phone call that night from the coach of that team saying "When she threw the first pitch he wished he had her!"

There is absolutely nothing wrong with competitiveness! That is all that is. Revenge is a mean spirited getting back at someone. Wanting to beat a team that turned their nose up at you is not revenge! It is just telling them what you think by bringing it to them ON THE FIELD! I am all for that!!

 

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I was truly shocked by how difficult softball tryouts are. My girls play multiple travel sports and no other tryout is quite like softball with all the jumping back and forth. It does make it a little tough not to take things personally )