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I think she should be at the game. ?If the other choice is hanging with her senior boyfriend all day.......I know she'll be at the game! ? LOL! ?Sorry, my dd's 12 and i'm hanging on and fighting for time with her as long as i'm breathing! ?By the time she's 14 all the local boys will think i'm PHYSCO!!!!!!! ?PRICELESS!

 

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Lead-off hitter and starting infielder? And she (or you) is using the assumption that you're going to lose as justification for her to go?

Honestly, she's a soph and he's graduating, give the kid a few months in college and they'll be broken up.

Also, its SENIOR skip day. It's her choice to have a bf and play softball. Regardless of what the coach said previously, she is letting her team down and putting a bf (surely not the last) before her team.

"Friendships born on the field of athletic strife are the real gold of competition. Awards (or boyfriends) become corroded, friends gather no dust."

Seems like a real SIMPLE decision here.

Oh and by the way, coach won't forget it if she skips the game.

 

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At my house, this wouldn't even be up for discussion. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't even allow her to miss a practice since one of my daughters was forced to quit her job because her boss unexpectantly scheduled a 'mandatory' meeting during a practice that I said she couldn't miss.

Looking at it another way, would she want to or be allowed to miss a day of a travel tournament to go to Kings Island?

 

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Play the game - commitment to the team should come first. She's got all summer to go to KI.

 

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Let me clear up a couple of things. I still think she should be at the game. They win as a team and they lose as a team. Will her being there make a difference? Maybe, maybe not. The comment I made about them probably losing was her reasoning not mine. I told her it doesn't matter if they win or lose. This team they are playing will probably make it to the final 4 in D1 or possibly higher. So the experience they get from playing this team will really help them in the tourney. I also know she will get over being mad at me, that is the life of a teenager.

She is a really good kid, she works her hind end off taking all Honors Classes and still gets a 4.0. That is what makes what I know is the right choice hard. She does deserve to take this day off and do what she wants. And I would not allow her to miss any other time either, travel or school. And she has 2 more years with this coach, and they don't forget things easy. That actually had nothing to do with my decision.

 

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eatsleep makes a good point about friction between her teammates. She isn't a senior and I could see the other players questioning her commitment to the team. From your description it seems she is a key player to their team and her absence would definitely be felt. However, I do understand how hard this must be for her with the whole boyfriend thing (it makes them loopy ;D), but in the long run, my guess is she will pay more in consequences for missing the game, than if she talks to her boyfriend and goes on Saturday with him instead.

As far as the coach honoring his word, that's a tough one. I don't think you can say he's a bad guy for not just letting her go. His job is to make sure the team is prepared to win every game, and with tournaments right around the corner, it is extremely common to pick up games to keep players sharp and focused. He doesn't make decisions about scheduling a pick up game based on whether he told one player she could miss practice or not. He's looking out for the best interest of the whole team.

 

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Problem solved itself. We had rain for two days and even though not much rain Friday day they still cancelled the game and she left for Kings Island around 12 with little to no rain down there all day. Thanks for all your advice.

 

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Funny how things work themselves out sometimes. I hope your DD had a blast at Kings Island.

 

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I am glad it all worked out!

 

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I comitted to my job the day I started working here. ?I can't tell you the number of Fridays I have blown off - to go coach softball ? ? ?I'm glad it worked out for you

 

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yep and then got the news Sunday she made 1st team All SCOL. So it was a good weekend.

 

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If she was given the OK by the coach I say enjoy the day. If it was a Playoff game or some sort of championship game the I would have her change he plans.

 

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I know I'm late and the situation resolved (thank you mother nature) BUT.... ?My oldest is about to enter HS and.....

Exact same situation, I let her go. ?Actually I let her make her own decision and I'm pretty sure she would be KI bound. ?I think it is absolutely the wrong decision but she will learn more from making her own decision than me forcing her to stay and play. ?When she gets back the ill feelings from her teammates will be a lesson well learned early rather than her senior year.

just my 2[ch8373]

 

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play softball!

my own DD is turning down a Cedar Point trip in band for her 8th grade tourney...but she knows she can go again, hence her query for the summer schedule so she can set a "date" with her other screaming non-travel girls to go later in the summer

 

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Hmmm... a softball game or a day with her boyfriend? It will always be softball before boyfriend if my dd is comitted to a team. If she gives it up one day, then she will have the free time to do the other stuff. And there are off days for relaxing, too. My senior year, I could have gone to Florida with friends for Spring Break or stay home and go to softball practices and avoid sitting the bench for the first few games of the season. I chose softball and took the Florida money from my parents towards the down payment on my first car.