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What would you do if your dds coach was cussing at players on her team.At the 14 u level?In the dugout during a game.
As for myself I have seen this last year and have heard the same guy is doing it again.
He should be thankful my kid doesnt play for him.Couse he would have one heck of a dental bill.

 

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Don't believe in cussing at girl's in the dugout, just about as much as I don't believe in punching out a coach because he is cussing at girl's in the dugout.

 

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Makes you wonder who theyre out there for.....

 

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It is inappropriate and that kind of language shouldn't be used around the girls at any age, in the dugout or otherwise.

 

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Commonly when I hear a foul mouth teeing it up, it usually means passion for the game and the situation, however foul mouth is not excuseable for any adult, but it does happen and most have cursed at least once or twice. Have you ever heard how much 14yr olds curse or goof off because they are going through a ton of changes in thier young lives? Girls are becoming young ladies at that pivotal age and independence is one key factor, as they are not the girls you had at 12 and 10, where they sit and listen with the deer in the head light look and do everything you say. They gain an opinion, and want to be heard, but some coach's are not ready for that and are not ready to handle 14yr old girls. JMO

 

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Did coach let a word slip while talking to girls or was he dropping some bombs while yelling at them? Sometimes things will slip out, accidents happen. What do you do when the girls are the ones dropping the bombs? I've heard more girls use foul language than coaches. Agree though, no place for either.

 

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This was or is not a slip in the heat of the moment.This is directed at these young players.Not only the f bomb but calling them foul names as well.
I am no saint in no way but I do know how to behave when around young girls.
I know that all the girls arent perfect and they might use this type of talk when there with there piers,and I would hope that I have raised my dd to be a better person than to talk like that.But I would not tolerate this kind of actions directed towards my dd period from a adult.
As I said thank god my dd doesnt play for him.

 

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Sounds like the organization should suspend or remove the coach.

 

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If it's a reputable organization they probably have a code of conduct that lays out what is and isn't acceptable for the coach. I would drop an email to someone high in the organization and let them know it is going on and if they are worthwhile it will get addressed in a hurry. Sometimes adults have to be reminded that we're not here to expand the kids vocabulary or reinforce the proper usage of curse words in a sentence or paragraph. That is what their schoolmates are for.

Even without the cursing I have a problem with coaches who are menacing/intimidating in their general style. It's a game. None of us started out our young DD's playing this sport hoping to have an adult yell at them at the top of their lungs and tell them how worthless they are. Some coaches see that as motivational, and maybe for some kids out there it is motivational, personally I didn't decide to coach so I would get a chance to yell at young girls and make them feel bad about themselves. Again that is what schoolmates are for and they all get plenty of it on the way through school without having it piled on in what is suppossed to be a game.

 

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It's simply not acceptable at any age or in any situation. The first step is to go directly to that coach and let him know in NO uncertain terms that that behavior is totally unacceptable and will not be tolerated...PERIOD. If you meet resistance or the coach does not apologize to the team, then it's time to remove your daughter from that situation and report the situation to the organization. I don't want to hear about any monies invested, or possible loss of playing time. Be an adult, look out for your child and the children of others. Are the girls really going to learn something from an individual who has no respect for them or have any personal discipline, I don't think so.

 

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First, the coach needs some anger management training. Next, speak to the organization's Director/president and inform him of the coach's actions and then tell the director that you will be filing a report with the appropriate sanction.

For Tournament Directors: Make it part of your Tournament Rules that cursing from any member of a team will not be tolerated and the result for the 1st offense will be ejection from the game and the second offense will be ejection from the tournament. Then follow through.

 

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not to mention names, but there was a coach who used to post on here that many have praised his training methods, praised his players work ethic, praised his knowledge of the game, etc.

If anyone watched his games, beginning at the 12u level, he was cussing up a storm. Probably yelled and cussed more at practice than most ever see at games.

his coaching style has been praised on this website in spite of the cussing. makes you wonder sometimes.

I for one, don't like the cussing, not even between adults.

 

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I for one don't care about cussing. My family and I don't do it much but we are not for crucifying anyone that does. If a coach uses cussing and/or intimidation and the players and parents are cool with it then whats the problem. I just think that the relationship between a coach and his/her players is a matter for them and the players parents. In other words, not our business. I don't like the way some parents raise their kids to be a White Sox fans, but hey, not my business. JMHO

 

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not to mention names, but there was a coach who used to post on here that many have praised his training methods, praised his players work ethic, praised his knowledge of the game, etc.

If anyone watched his games, beginning at the 12u level, he was cussing up a storm. Probably yelled and cussed more at practice than most ever see at games.

his coaching style has been praised on this website in spite of the cussing. makes you wonder sometimes.

I for one, don't like the cussing, not even between adults.

And he was not invited back to one of the premier Ohio Showcases for it.

 

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And he was not invited back to one of the premier Ohio Showcases for it.

See, that would be a good reason not to cuss. I guess if you are going to cuss at your players you shouldn't do it at a tournament where spectators can hear. Some parents don't want their kids subjected to it and deserve to have that wish respected when at a kids tournament.

 

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GORSHDARNIT GEEWILLIKERS<sp>....

 

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It's all about context and the relationship between a coach and the players.

 

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If I did not think it was appropriate and looked at more than the one instance I would find a new team. You could try to resolve it internally to the organization but I would just leave and try and do a better job of picking a team and coach next time

 

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We played a team at the 14u level last year 2 or 3 times and watched the coach yell at and intimidate his girls in every game. In the 1st game after his pitcher hit my daughter for the 2nd time he ran out to the mound and pointed his finger and screamed at her so both teams could hear. My daughter, being a pitcher herself, felt so bad for the girl and I wanted to go out and tell the guy to leave his pitcher alone(I probably should have)! His players looked miserable and embarassed in every game. What a loser!

 

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As TD and While I was at the other park, I received call from my director at the other site to inform me that some parents (from the same girl) were swearing at the top of their lungs at the game.... And then he said "this is one of our teams"......Needless to say the girl has been removed from the team and from our organization..IT NEVERS ENDS PRETTY, BUT IT MUST END...