Who chooses team parent or daughter

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the girl needs to be happy because it will be an extremely long season if she isn't. Take her to quality teams to try out for and let her make the decision.

 

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100% agreed. I will try to guide her but she has to make the final decision. I learned a few years back if she is not happy with the girls she is playing with, it will make for a long season. She absolutely loved the team she played with this past summer. Whether they want her back is their call. She had some very good stats with them and we are still waiting to hear from them. If not, it will be my fault and we will go in another direction and Daddy learned some lessons along the way.

 

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As a coach.... I want both to agree that the team is right. Nothing like the car ride that beats the DD up to practice and then we have to "adjust" the DD when she gets there. If you have issues at offer time... call them out then. A happy family leads to a healthy situation for the team. Nothing like 60-80 games or more and 10 months of causing heck with a team cause either the DD or family don't like something. Lots of options exist... make the best decision to fit your needs. Can't forget that having a happy parent in the bleachers will help the team gell in everyway. It really is like an interview... would you force yourself into a job when you know something just isn't right? No way, unless you had to. It's fastpitch, you don't "have" to do anything...except make a good decision. Talk with the coaches and organization leaders and the answers you need to make an educated decision and do everyone a favor... more importantly... yourself a favor!!

 

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Couldn't agree more.

As a coach.... I want both to agree that the team is right. Nothing like the car ride that beats the DD up to practice and then we have to "adjust" the DD when she gets there. If you have issues at offer time... call them out then. A happy family leads to a healthy situation for the team. Nothing like 60-80 games or more and 10 months of causing heck with a team cause either the DD or family don't like something. Lots of options exist... make the best decision to fit your needs. Can't forget that having a happy parent in the bleachers will help the team gell in everyway. It really is like an interview... would you force yourself into a job when you know something just isn't right? No way, unless you had to. It's fastpitch, you don't "have" to do anything...except make a good decision. Talk with the coaches and organization leaders and the answers you need to make an educated decision and do everyone a favor... more importantly... yourself a favor!!

 

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We decide together with our dd. She needs to be in a position to have fun, to learn, to be challenged and to get better, but we are financing it all.

 

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A couple seasons ago my dd played for a very good organization. The coaches loved her and were some the best coaches I have encountered. However, she was not happy there. She just had no chemistry with the girls on the team. So last year we went to another organization. I truly wanted her to go back to the first organization this year and I forced her to go to their tryouts. She was miserable from the second she stepped out of the car, but she humored me and did a great job. She just does not want to play there. She loves all of the coaches in that organization and they love her right back, but in the end she would have to spend a lot of time with girls that make it obvious she is not wanted back. I couldn't do that to her. Luckily we found a team that she is a perfect fit for and has the same ambitions that we do. She is perfectly happy with her decision and after talking with the coach and doing some of my own research, I am also happy with the choice.

These decisions have to be made together. They won't work otherwise. IMHO

 

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I think a little input from the parent with the final choice being the DD. She must be happy! The Parent can make it work.

 

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Daughter........ shes the one that has to spend the summer with her team mates, I can see parental guidance at the younger ages though........lets just hope were smarter than our kids

Tim

 

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As a coach.... I want both to agree that the team is right. Nothing like the car ride that beats the DD up to practice and then we have to "adjust" the DD when she gets there. If you have issues at offer time... call them out then. A happy family leads to a healthy situation for the team. Nothing like 60-80 games or more and 10 months of causing heck with a team cause either the DD or family don't like something. Lots of options exist... make the best decision to fit your needs. Can't forget that having a happy parent in the bleachers will help the team gell in everyway. It really is like an interview... would you force yourself into a job when you know something just isn't right? No way, unless you had to. It's fastpitch, you don't "have" to do anything...except make a good decision. Talk with the coaches and organization leaders and the answers you need to make an educated decision and do everyone a favor... more importantly... yourself a favor!!

I like this answer, even though my DD has to be happy, I as a parent need to be happy as well. Who wants to spend an entire season being a grump in the stands. I know with my son at basketball I did the same thing for many years thinking it was all the coaches fault and thought the HS coach stunk. Why not interview both ways, will the coach like the kid and parents and will the kid and parents like the coach.

 

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I allow my daughter to choose where she feels comfortable and then I make sure that the situation and organization will be in her best interests.

 

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This year my dad told me to find all the teams i wanted to tryout for because last year he was the one who organized it all and we were all stressed. Him for having to organize it and me for having to tryout for 2-3 teams a day. This year I organized it and it went alot smoother. If I want to go to the teams other tryout instead of teh first team then I have to organize it. I will discuss what my options are but in the end Im goin to play for the team I want to play for

 

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We let our daughter ultimately make the decision. I agree with the others, I wouldn't have taken her to the tryouts and wasted their time and ours if I wouldn't allow her to accept an offer. I understand you might get better offers than the other teams etc., but bottom line, she has to practice and play the game. If she is comfortable with the coaches and players than she most likely will be a more effective player

 

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We are fairly new to the whole travel ball experience and have been thankful for the education. We have learned what is good and bad out there, and what happens when the chemistry isn't there. My suggestion is that things can change during the year so be careful and do your homework before choosing. We will be sitting out this year the fire has started to fade and we will be focused on the high school season

 

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this year all my DD asked for was a team that had a coach without a DD on the team.

We located many and went-she was getting tired of knowing that she was good at a position but could never play it because it was the coaches DD's position.

After the logistics were taken care of with me and my husband-she had three teams to choose from. This choice came from her and only her, we completely stepped back from the answer.

she wanted a fair shot to show what she had and not just pick a position to excel at based on what the coaches' DD wasn't playing. I am really looking forward to next season.

 

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i make the choice about the options she has.

 

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I've been very fortunate - me and my DD's preferences have always been pretty identical. Today she tried out for a team that we BOTH want her to be a part of... and after a good tryout, now she is.