Would you add her to the Team ?

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Just a question to alot of coaches as well as parents of a team. If you had a young lady ( lets just say she was a very GOOD pitcher ) come to your try out . You checked into her past teams and coaches and found out she was asked to leave 2 teams in one year and quit the other one she played on ( in one years time) . Then come to find out she was kicked off her team she just played on . Reason for all this was her father . Father offered very seriuos bodley harm( death ) to a parent of this team so they released the player. Would you even take the chance on this kid. Very sad that a father would ruin a young ladies chance to play softball. But what would you do ? Do you punish the child?

 

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No, you do not take her. Travel softball teams pick girls with families, so the family is part of the package.

 

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So sad...I would not take her but would make that decision with a heavy heart. Unfortunately the player has to pay the price for a parent's issues, but in fairness to the rest of the team and team parents I would have to pass...if....all the above can be verified.

 

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nope- too bad but don't chance your team's season

 

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No way would I take her. I am sure she is aware of the problem and embarrassed. Truth of the matter is, I don't want to put up with a jerk all year. I don't want to hear from other parents about the jerk all year. I WONT put up with a jerk. Her stay would be short lived with us.

 

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Absolutely not

 

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I don't think it would be fair to the rest of the players and parents, to put up with a father that may be a serious distraction to the team as a whole. And on another note if she quit those other teams, it seems that she may have a lack of commitment. To me as a parent, I would hope that you would say no-way. You may have parents threaten to take their daughters to another team, or quit, if they have to put up with that every game and or practice. Like someone said, this is a family sport, we as parents and the players spend a lot of time together.

 

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Its called "Select" for a reason. We have to consider the selection of not only the player but the parents as well.

Not always the best situation for a player, but she did not get to choose her parents.

 

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No way. I had parents rip apart a team last year and the only one it hurts are the kids. This is about the kids right ?

 

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Families are part of the package, don't take her.

 

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What else can I say that hasn't already been said here. There is no way I would take a girl with that kind of bagage. I had a parent like that a couple years back, sweet kids but dad was a butt. I had to let his girls go in the middle of the season, because he could no longer control himself.

If I could rewind to tryouts, I would not have picked up the girls to begin with. It would have saved me and the rest of the coaches some real heartache.

 

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Made that mistake of taking a girl we knew had isues with parents in the past. It turned out it happened all over again even with assurances from parents it would not. Sad for the girl but save your team.

 

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Definitely pass on this one. Had a great kid with parents that distracted the team in the past. This is a tough situation to deal with.

 

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Funny, but I had a similar problem this year with parents.
The player was a top notch player, but I passed on her due to her parents.
I would not and did not take her due to her parents.

 

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I can see several possible scenerios if you take this young lady

 

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Many times as a coach you feel you are punishing a girl because of her parents, when in reality, the parents are the ones that are punishing the girl.


Joe

 

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You probably knew the answer before you asked it but the support hopefully makes your decision easier. Unfortunately the parents come with the girl :'( and you do not want to scarifice the team for one player. Just ask the Cowboys, Eagles and Niners if a good player is worth it

 

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Gossip and hearsay can cause serious problems. Be 100% sure that what your hearing is true before making a decision. If what your hearing is verified as true, by all means do not take her.

 

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I have experiance with this situation. NO!

 

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Not a chance!!!