Hitting and Hitters Discussion Would you make your DD play for a team she dont want to play for.

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Well since we are all board thought I would throw something out there. Would you make your daughter play for a team that she does not want to play on. And even insisted that she does not want any part of it. If so why?

 

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only if she had already committed for that year, after that, I would allow the change. But what is the reasoning for wanting to leave?

 

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Well since we are all board thought I would throw something out there. Would you make your daughter play for a team that she does not want to play on. And even insisted that she does not want any part of it. If so why?

To answer your question....Yes, I would make her play on the team. If I'm the one doing all the running and paying the bills she has an obligation to play on whatever team I choose for her to be on. If she didn't want to play for this team then she shouldn't have went to their tryouts!

 

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Can't think of any reason to. I have talked her into playing on a team but it was her final decision and I didn't dangle her cell phone to strong arm her either. It has to be fun and something she wants to do or it would be a long year.

 

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I'm speaking of when she has not committed. If committed...she follows through

 

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Hmmm...just curious why you would ask this. Is this a situation you or another parent has had to deal with recently?

And, btw---my first reaction is no, I would never force her to play for any team. But if she was already on a team and was unhappy with it (unless it was determined that there was something really heinous going on), I would do my best to encourage her to finish the season. It's good for the character and shows class.

 

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Playing fastpitch softball at a high level is difficult enough when a player is motivated to be on a team. If she is not motivated then my bet would be that she would not work to her full potential. Therefore, she would be wasting time and money.

I personally would have never put either of my daughters in a situation where they were not fully committed and motivated to play.

 

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Board was slow so thought I'd throw something out there that I had over heard at fall ball this weekend

 

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Board was slow so thought I'd throw something out there that I had over heard at fall ball this weekend

Gotcha

 

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Now think this through parents. What if your daughter played on a "fun" travel team that did do bad but didn't do great. You know that this other team would push her further. She loves the team she is on. But you know this other team would equip her better.

Maybe the other team has a better schedule, plays more competitive tournaments, and offers more personal development. Remember we are the parents--we are paying the bills like Lady_Knights said. I agree, this all needs to be done prior to any committments.

When she goes to college--she is not going to know anyone that she is playing with. Why not prepare her now?

 

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If my daughter was not committed to the team than no. My daughter has the final say which team she plays for or stays on. You still have to enjoy the game and your surrounding or the girls will just stop playing. Now if she was committed then she plays on the team until Nationals are done. The kids are the ones playing so I let her make the final decision with guidance from my wife and me. If she was adamant about not playing there's probably a good reason.

 

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If we hadn't committed, I would not make her play for the team. It has to be a good fit that both of us feel good about, otherwise, what a long season it would be! I would definitely ENCOURAGE her to play on a team that had great coaches and would benefit her. You would have to ask yourself...what is the best move for her? If you are not committed, no need to feel obligated!!

 

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Let's throw some fuel on the fire: DD has an opportunity of lifetime, play up in age and will only play in high profile tournaments like Colorado Sparkler. Do you make decision for her, or let her choose?

 

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If she had committed then yes, if she has not committed its her show. She can play for who she wants to or who will take her lol.

 

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Dave, I still let her choose with input from parents. By the way, where is Kayla playing? I know that she will do well wherever she is playing. Any team would be lucky to have her.

 

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If my dd said she wanted to play and commited to a team then changed her mind of course she would carry thru with the comitment.

 

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no. Life is too short, and softball is supposed to be for fun.

 

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I think it was still in tryout process before commitment.

 

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Ok, so what if you entered Select in Mid-Summer with team "A". And now attended Team "A"s Try-Outs three weeks ago. Team "A" has new coaching and 50% new players and just recently added significant players that may or may not impact DDs original goals for 2009

Since attending 1 of Team "A"s try-outs(3 weeks ago), we've realized DDs goals for 2009 have drastically changed (more aggressive in training "Seriously more so." and realize there are only 1-3 teams in state that will really offer that challenge and development. And she will most likely move down on depth chart, but develop exponentially.

So tomorrow last Try-Out for team "A", we anticipate sharing our NEW Goals for 2009, and hope that will end with an amicable understanding that although we thought we were in the right place three weeks ago, it is quite clear now, we NEED to move on.

As a Father first, I believe I NEED to support my DDs desire to follow a more aggresive path, even though it took us several extra weeks to figure that out, after advising we did intend to play 2009 with Team "A". Team "A" gave us some perceptions also, that are most likely not going to happen either, so in this small community, I don't believe anyone is doing anything wrong, but simply trying to do the best things for their Daughter and Organization respectively.

I hope our Team "A" coach feels the same. Should be interesting to see how things go tomorrow.

Is it really commitment (This Early) if TRY-OUTS are still ongoing, team being shaped, no Money changes hands, but simply expressed desire to play for team next year...? I hope I'm not rationalizing this .

 

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Team changes that early opens the door for you to react and change too. You gave more of an intention then a commitment. Trying to help you rationalize it. :lmao: