Let the kid choose? ... okay, let's say she wants to travel 3 hours to play for a team that is not very good, and because they wear AWESOME "pink pony" uniforms, and also her old best friend that moved last year plays for that team now ....
Extreme example? ... yes! Point is, that parental input is important, and even necessary to over-rule decisions that are obviously poor or emotional decisions. The "feel good" & "confidence/esteem" part of letting dd decide is VERY important, and ultimately her "buy-in" is vital, agreed.
Another of life's important lessons though, is that the one that funds the operation, ultimately must "approve" also, and believe it is good value in return for the funds ... this is true whether in her future career, or while she is on college scholaship, or while she is playing 10u for the "Pink Ponies" (or the "Kitten Killers"). It should be an educational process of decision making, guided by the adult, with the real decision making gradually shifting to the kid over time. I would not force a kid to play for a team that she can't stand though, even at youngest ages, throw out the high & low if needed, decide among the mutually acceptable.
Just keepin' it real, and spreading sunshine .... ;& .... overall though, it is important to feel good about what you are doing, and own that choice as much as possible. It has been enjoyable watching my own gradually wrestle control away from me ... makes me proud, and confident in her future decision making.