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I am just completing my second season as a manager and am in some serious need of help. Through two summers, I have been trying to build on the "team" concept. I am finding it extremely difficult. The players and parents in my area are of the belief this is an individual sport. I have no daughter on the team. The only reason I do this is to give back to the kids for all of the great volunteers who coached me through the years. I "old school" when it comes to team sports, i.e. the team comes first, etc. My problems stem from the fact that every parent believes their DD is an all-star, which simply is not true. There are times I play a girl in right field instead of at second base and I receive a mile-long text on Monday about who should play where while explaining their DD's best position is second base. I try to explain that yes, her best position might be second base, but in order for the team to find success, I need her to play in right field. This explanation is often shouted down or not heard at all. They rant and rave when we lose, but don't accept the team concept in trying to build a winner. As far as I see it, no team wins unless it puts the team first. 12 or 13 individuals never win, I can tell you that from my two seasons. I guess what I'm asking is how do you sell the team concept and make everyone understand that it is not about the individual? Very few of my girls will ever play in college, so showcasing individuals has no point in my team. Another example is that I use the DP/Flex almost every game. It gives me flexibility with changing pitchers and allows me to play the best nine fielders while also hitting my best nine batters. I had a girl who was my fourth-best third baseman, my fifth-best first baseman and my fourth-best pitcher. She was, shall I say, not very athletic. On top of that, she was lazy as a fielder and took more than an hour to warm up to pitch. But she was clearly one of my best nine hitters if she put forth the effort and let us coach her. So she was my DP nearly every game. This did not sit well with her parents, who took to screaming at individual players and their parents by the end of the season. My explanation to where she was in the depth chart fell on deaf ears. They claimed I should start moving my best players at positions to other positions they've never played in order to get their DD in the lineup at a spot she coveted. I told them in no uncertain terms that it would never happen, this isn't rec ball. Not everyone has to play six outs in the field and get a turn to bat. The goal is teach the game properly, expand players' abilities and to win all while having some fun while we do it. Advice in this area from experienced coaches is much appreciated. Two years now I have had a team ruined by this selfish behavior.