High School Student/Athlete behavior

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I had the unfortunate happening this week to witness a Varsity Swimmer(Sophomore) while ON DECK during a meet actually walk over to his girl friend(Varsity Softball Player - Sophomore) and clutch her into his arms/body and then give her a several second long kiss, prior to heading off to the starting blocks in front of 500 parents, siblings, teammates.

Did I really just see that...????? Yes, I did and had to answer several questions from my 10 yr. old DD who was also watching this unfold.


QUESTION / SURVEY:

* Am I a really old fart that hasn't kept up with the times as NO BIG DEAL
* Both Student/Ahtletes behavior deserve School & Team discipline
* Both Student / Ahtletes behavior although not appropriate should be managed by coach/parental discussion to remind them of School/Team behavior requirements
* Add your own ACTION of discipline or mentoring that should take place...

Knowing both of these kids and believing they are really GREAT kids, I felt somewhat dis-appointed that they could BOTH have such a lack of discretion. Am I alone on this? I could only wonder, if that is OK in public, what is going on behind closed doors. I thought Student/Atheletes were to be shining examples held to higher standards then the rest.


NOW IMAGINE OUR DDs IN THE DUGOUT JUST PRIOR TO HEADING TO HOME PLATE FOR THEIR AT BAT, SEGWAYED OVER TO THEIR BOYFRIEND FOR A LITTLE MAKE-OUT GOOD LUCK BEFORE HITTING EACH TIME. ARE YOU KIDDING ME... I STILL CAN'T BELIEVE I SAW IT, AND MORE SO, CAN'T BELIEVE A COACH, PARENT, OR SCHOOL ADMIN DIDN"T WALK BOTH OF THEM OUT OF THE MEET.

 

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I'm sure most teens would say you were an old fart . I agree with you, not the time or place. I've walked through our H.S halls a time or two and thought I was instead at the local make-out point.

I'm shocked at what most parents will allow and even more so at what many teachers allow.

 

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This scenario gives an entirely new meaning to

THE ON-DECK CIRCLE... lol, or should I be sobbing..

"I hear banjos, paddle faster"!

 

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An olf fart, well, I'll leave that call for you. I do believe that the school should do something. Unfortunately, it their a start athlete, probably nothing wil be done. If the parents try to do something, they'll rebel and makes things worse.

Unfortunately, it is the sign of the times. Look at the movies and shows out there. But I also believe we, as parents, are at fault on this. I come from an old school thought so I'm very involved with my dd's lives. We have countless talks about certain shows (like that American Teenager). They'll watch anyway, but they are aware of what is going on.

As a parent of a teenager whose dd is seeing a boy, my dd and her boyfriend hear it all of the time about certain actions. My dd's boyfriends parents (who happen to be my best friends), also talk to them constantly. in fact, my whole church is watching them so I'm blessed on that. I'm also the guy that your parents warned about so I know the games guys play to get with girls. I took what I did as a teenager and put it in perspective. I did some wild things, but I also had respect for those around me (if not, well my parents believed in the law which was a 3/4 inch oak board with holes).

 

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Well said Brown, the key word in your story is RESPECT. There are many views to respect -- giving it to adults or younger ones, giving it to your GF or BF, earning it from those same mentioned, and living it daily. It's all about choices one makes, can you live with the choice is the question....

In my mind the school should have it in the handbooks of the teams regardless...

 

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Well said Brown, the key word in your story is RESPECT. There are many views to respect -- giving it to adults or younger ones, giving it to your GF or BF, earning it from those same mentioned, and living it daily. It's all about choices one makes, can you live with the choice is the question....

In my mind the school should have it in the handbooks of the teams regardless...

You are correct, and maybe they are dealing with it discretely. Kudos to HS if that is the case.

 

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Here is a simple guide..

If it was someone else's DD: Your an 'Ol Fart.

If it was your DD: Completely innapropriate, hire some senoir to beat the snot out of him.

 

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Here is a simple guide..

If it was someone else's DD: Your an 'Ol Fart.

If it was your DD: Completely innapropriate, hire some senoir to beat the snot out of him.

ROFLMAO:lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

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I know Bob and he is an Ole Fart. hehe Just kidding.
Man, touching and kissing while wearing a skimpy bathing suit, out in public. I don't think I would want a bunch of people looking at me after doing that, at least not when I was a teen.
Would think the coach would but a stop to it, not for moral grounds but team and focus.

 

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I am confident my DD was raised well enough not to have to worry about this, but you cant control others. Im pretty sure there has to be something in the athletic policy regarding conduct, and they way you represent the school. And if the coach had a clue he should have ended that right there.

 

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Man, touching and kissing while wearing a skimpy bathing suit, out in public. I don't think I would want a bunch of people looking at me after doing that, at least not when I was a teen.

I agree....Not to mention the increased drag in the water when you're trying to win a race, unless it was the backstroke, where the bunch of people looking at you comes back into play.

Len

 

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* Both Student / Ahtletes behavior although not appropriate should be managed by coach/parental discussion to remind them of School/Team behavior requirements

 

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What ever happen to P.D.O.A.

 

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I'm sure most teens would say you were an old fart . I agree with you, not the time or place. I've walked through our H.S halls a time or two and thought I was instead at the local make-out point.

I'm shocked at what most parents will allow and even more so at what many teachers allow.

I can only speak from experience in my school district. But, as a teacher I have tried to combat inappropriate contact in our hallways. The result was this. One parent of a student came to the school to complain about the detention I gave along with the lecture the daughter recieved (along with the boy) about how the hallway is not the place for this. The daughter did not get the detention from the school. Any other time I would write a kid up they received no discipline. School administrators bow down to parents in an effort to keep passing levies. It is embarrassing. The kids know they have us where they want us. We have been scolded for trying to teach morals and ethics to kids. They say that is up to the parents. Many of our parents are run by the kids. As a teacher and coach I will continue to try, but I feel like I am fighting a losing battle.

Shows do not lead to this behavior. It is a combination of factors. Parents, friend, media ect.

 

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I agree....Not to mention the increased drag in the water when you're trying to win a race, unless it was the backstroke, where the bunch of people looking at you comes back into play.

Len

:lmao: funniest thing I have read here in a while... only you!

 

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I agree....Not to mention the increased drag in the water when you're trying to win a race, unless it was the backstroke, where the bunch of people looking at you comes back into play.

Len

LOLOLOLOLOLOL. LMAOLMAOLMAO.... Those SPeedos HIDE NOTHING!

 

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I agree....Not to mention the increased drag in the water when you're trying to win a race, unless it was the backstroke, where the bunch of people looking at you comes back into play.

Len

great one Lenski MD

 

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Had it been my kid I would have embarassed him or her on the spot. WAY inappropriate.

 

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all kidding about pitching speedo tents aside...

doesn't the school or the school district have a strict policy regarding PDOA?

I know when I was in school the Northwest Local School District had a zero tolerance policy and that was 21 years ago. surprised that this happened without an administrator acting on it.

 

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I agree....Not to mention the increased drag in the water when you're trying to win a race, unless it was the backstroke, where the bunch of people looking at you comes back into play.

Len

:lmao::lmao::lmao: