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All right, look. My dd has played several seasons of tourney ball, and during each of those seasons we have witnessed idiotic stunts by immature, unstable coaches who can?t control themselves. It distresses me to see it, since it gives young girls the absolute wrong idea of what athletic competition is all about.
But this year takes the cake. So far we have seen:
1) A coach whose program was hosting the tournament screaming at the top of his lungs at an ump, ?You?ve been terrible for twenty years,? repeatedly, at least twenty times. People could hear this through the whole complex ? we heard it a field and a half away. It sounded like the guy was totally melting down, tearing-his-hair-out insane. His yelling couldn?t have been louder or more out of control if he'd just gotten news that his family had been wiped out in a car crash. I thought, all this drama over a girls? softball game? What kind of a stunted, creepy life must this individual have, if his ego can be totally shattered by the disappointing outcome of a child?s game?
2) A coach facing away from his opponents? dugout, bending down and reaching back and patting his far-too-ample patoot in the universal invitation to ?kiss my keister?. Again, what do we want our daughters to learn from playing this game? And who are the children here, really?
3) A coach shouting insults at an opposing team about their national heritage. (Sigh.) Whose country is reflected badly upon in this situation?
4) A coach screaming a stream of obscenities at the umpire in front of both teams and both sets of parents. (Another sigh, deeper this time.)
And I could add several more examples just as bad, but you get the idea.
Now, I don?t want to get into the merits of each coach?s claims. Because, ultimately, they don?t matter. Even if the ump is wrong about a call at first, that doesn?t give you license to make a total idiot of yourself. Or give a horrible example to 25 young girls on how to act when faced with adversity.
And I'm not proposing that softball coaches never get passionate or yell.
I'm not even saying that umps are not horrible -- unfortunately, some of them are.
But there are lines that should simply not be be crossed -- and they have to do with comporting oneself as a decent human being.
So I am hereby making a proposal:
Let?s stand up for our daughters and purge this sport of a-holes. Today.
Let?s go to our program directors/boards and inform them of coaches who are an embarrassment to their organizations.
Let?s tell parents of younger players which coaches can?t control themselves, and which are decent human beings. (And I?ve come to realize that there is no correlation between being an a-hole and being a good coach. Some winning coaches are a-holes, and some are wonderful human beings.)
And, finally. I propose that each program review any instance in which one of their coaches gets tossed from a game. Appropriate suspensions could follow where merited. This would at least let coaches know that they're accountable for their behavior.
Anyway, I?m not suggesting we go out and collect our daughters from second base when a coach melts down ? (although I?m about this close?).
I just think that too many a-hole coaches could actually kill this sport in time.
I'm interested in finding out if others agree, or if I'm just turning into a crotchety old f*rt.
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Or both.
But this year takes the cake. So far we have seen:
1) A coach whose program was hosting the tournament screaming at the top of his lungs at an ump, ?You?ve been terrible for twenty years,? repeatedly, at least twenty times. People could hear this through the whole complex ? we heard it a field and a half away. It sounded like the guy was totally melting down, tearing-his-hair-out insane. His yelling couldn?t have been louder or more out of control if he'd just gotten news that his family had been wiped out in a car crash. I thought, all this drama over a girls? softball game? What kind of a stunted, creepy life must this individual have, if his ego can be totally shattered by the disappointing outcome of a child?s game?
2) A coach facing away from his opponents? dugout, bending down and reaching back and patting his far-too-ample patoot in the universal invitation to ?kiss my keister?. Again, what do we want our daughters to learn from playing this game? And who are the children here, really?
3) A coach shouting insults at an opposing team about their national heritage. (Sigh.) Whose country is reflected badly upon in this situation?
4) A coach screaming a stream of obscenities at the umpire in front of both teams and both sets of parents. (Another sigh, deeper this time.)
And I could add several more examples just as bad, but you get the idea.
Now, I don?t want to get into the merits of each coach?s claims. Because, ultimately, they don?t matter. Even if the ump is wrong about a call at first, that doesn?t give you license to make a total idiot of yourself. Or give a horrible example to 25 young girls on how to act when faced with adversity.
And I'm not proposing that softball coaches never get passionate or yell.
I'm not even saying that umps are not horrible -- unfortunately, some of them are.
But there are lines that should simply not be be crossed -- and they have to do with comporting oneself as a decent human being.
So I am hereby making a proposal:
Let?s stand up for our daughters and purge this sport of a-holes. Today.
Let?s go to our program directors/boards and inform them of coaches who are an embarrassment to their organizations.
Let?s tell parents of younger players which coaches can?t control themselves, and which are decent human beings. (And I?ve come to realize that there is no correlation between being an a-hole and being a good coach. Some winning coaches are a-holes, and some are wonderful human beings.)
And, finally. I propose that each program review any instance in which one of their coaches gets tossed from a game. Appropriate suspensions could follow where merited. This would at least let coaches know that they're accountable for their behavior.
Anyway, I?m not suggesting we go out and collect our daughters from second base when a coach melts down ? (although I?m about this close?).
I just think that too many a-hole coaches could actually kill this sport in time.
I'm interested in finding out if others agree, or if I'm just turning into a crotchety old f*rt.
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Or both.