It's pretty amazing people can judge others without knowing them or all the circumstances. Feisty's got nothing to do with the park policies, that's been made clear throughout this thread. Truly, if your daughter will be so upset by playing in this tourny (which hasn't even happened yet), then stay home.
Man, some people complain about everything. How about a little understanding? At least they are trying to communicate what's going on. I've experienced other tournaments who cared a lot less about the participants than this organization.
This is a first year organization at a first year complex. There were bound to be some problems, yet your team still chose to sign up for it. Make the most of it instead of predetermining it will be such a disaster.