Parent and Coach conflicts

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Same thing - That is why choosing a team these days is much more than simply evaluating talent.

 

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My daughter was on a team that "released" a few players over the years. Sometimes it was the player, sometimes it was the parents. Coach met with the team beforehand and explained the situation. The girls agreed with the decision. It was never a pretty scene. But coaches have a lot of time and energy invested in a team, so it's best to nip it in the bud and let everybody move on.

Louuuu - I released 2 players this past season; one player for performance-related issues and the other for parental conflicts. Both girls played two full seasons for me. It was stressful in both cases, but I feel I made the right decision. Whereas I didn't consult the other players, I did discuss the move with my assistants prior to making the announcement. My assistant coaches were in complete agreement and praised me for my courage to "make the hard call". The rest of the team seems to be unfazed.

 

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Yep. The team realizes that changes have to be made. I think in my case, the coach was saying "Here's what we're doing, and why. Are we all on the same page?" 'Kinda helps strengthen the Team concept...

 

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I think the comments posted throughout the thread answers the initial question posed, don't you?!:lmao:

 

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Yes, but we're not addicted to OFC because Post #1 poses a question, and Post #2 answers it - then it's closed ...

 

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Then why are we all addicted to this? And I do praise the good coaches but I still hate daddy ball. OOPS HERE WE GO AGAIN....LOL

 

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It really doesn't matter what the issues are, what matters is that you have the opportunity to show your daughter how to walk through a tough situation with integrity and teach her how to handle problems with people that she will surely face in life at sometime.

Make sure you are proud of the lessons you taught her...if not be mature enough to apologize and do better next time.

 

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I am a frequent reader of this forum, but never comment. This was my daughter's third year with a a fairly large organization, and 6th year playing tournament ball. The girls on this team were a great bunch of girls and got along well and supported each other despite the coaches and the parents. This was the worst bunch of helicopter parents I have ever had to deal with. They were hard on their own kids, hard on the coaches, and brutal to teammates. They yelled comments to their own players about opposing players like it was some kind of strategy, and they weren't just a 15-year old girl like their own dd. But they didn't like the other players on their own team any better. They thought teammates were just there to compete for their own dd's position and playing time. During the last tournament, they plotted to get rid of the coaches for next year, after schmoozing them all season. My dd will be playing for a different organization next year, and if we go up against whatever is left of this team, I will take my position against the outfield fence.

Sportsmanship is not just about being nice. It is much more important than that. It’s about
realizing that you could not compete without an opponent and that she has the same goals as you.
– Stephanie Deibler

 

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"Sportsmanship is not just about being nice. It is much more important than that. It’s about
realizing that you could not compete without an opponent and that she has the same goals as you."

Justherride ... never heard that quote before ... love it ... more parents, coaches and players need to remember that!

 

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Waxworks, i took your advice and watched an episode of Dance Moms - I'm still recovering from it!

I have a newfound appreciation for softball!! Lol!

 

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My DD and her team had a very difficult season - daddy ball, rec ball whatever you want to call it - at what point is it OK to say enough is enough and leave but at the same time - you toss away your belief that you finish what you started. Dont you owe it to the girls to stay for the sake of the team? I don't want my DD to think it is OK to quit a team when things get tough - but when is that "point" of no return and it is time to move on - whether it is the beginning of season, middle or near the end? Then if you move on how are you viewed by the organization, coaches, parents and teammates and what if you leave do you ruin your chances of playing for the organization in the future???

 

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I think every parent should have to coach at least one year. That should resolve a lot of issues by developing empathy for future coaches.

 

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My DD and her team had a very difficult season - daddy ball, rec ball whatever you want to call it - at what point is it OK to say enough is enough and leave but at the same time - you toss away your belief that you finish what you started. Dont you owe it to the girls to stay for the sake of the team? I don't want my DD to think it is OK to quit a team when things get tough - but when is that "point" of no return and it is time to move on - whether it is the beginning of season, middle or near the end? Then if you move on how are you viewed by the organization, coaches, parents and teammates and what if you leave do you ruin your chances of playing for the organization in the future???

Does it really matter how you are viewed? When it comes down to it, you have to do what is right for YOUR kid. That is how you sleep at night. And believe me, if the situation is THAT bad, chances are you are not the only parent who's frustrated. Other parents will understand and may be a little jealous that you can go somewhere else. Just don't burn bridges. If you must leave, do it with dignity and understand that you WILL see those people again.