I have to put this out there as I'm sad for the girls on my team ! Was I wrong to take a 2 year returning players parents at their word when they call me and say they are coming back instead of asking for any money up front ? The answer is yes ! After all our try outs are completed they call and tell me they are changing teams ! Thats my rant , thanks !
Returning players who back out !
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LADY_KNIGHTS
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I had a voice mail at 730 tonight saying they accepted a spot and then a text at 9 saying they had changed their mind and were going somewhere else. It's a crazy thing this travel ball stuff...just gotta sit back and chuckle.
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Mdfio
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All I can say ech92 is Travel Ball is a small tight community! I am with Lady Knights, just gotta sit back and chuckle
freddieball
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Sorry to hear that Ed. You guys have very good thing going there. I am sure there will be plenty of talent looking for a team. Some people don't take commitment serious which is a shame. If my daughter says she commits, there is no backing out. Doesn't matter if its softball or unloading the dishes 
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Coach32
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We had the same thing happen (2 year returner). Spoke with family both mom and dad week before tryouts they said the were committed not trying out anywhere else. Go through tryouts needing only 1 so we turned away some good players then get a phone call Tuesday after saying they were leaving. Put us in a position of calling girls we turned down to offer. In the end we are lucky and got a great girl to replace the loss but thing i dont under stand is the lack of commitment as Freddieball said some people just dont understand it. But in the end all you can do is smile and wish them the best and move on with your group of girls.
Westler33
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I am with you freddieball if my dd says I will do something she will do it until the end of the season or until the task is done and that is a life lesson I always tell her that your word is everything in life!
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I have to say that this team hopping has gotten so much worse since my DD started in 2002. There use to be some sort of loayalty to a team/org/player, that all seems lost now. I think too many folks have forgotten that this is nothing more than a kids game, something to be enjoyed by the parents and the child.
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What about coaches who just string a returning player along, just so he can see if he can upgrade through tryouts. Then tell the girl he won't be offering her a spot for the next season. Leaving her to scramble after most teams have finished up their tryouts? This goes both ways.
Coach32
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For me this is just as bad. I try to be upfront with players and parents if needed. Now speaking for myself if we offer a player before tryouts they have a spot. But I have heard of that happening.
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Now that is just plain low. You may be better off not playing for someone with such absence of character.
freddieball
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Correct. Shame on the coaches. Commitment is a 2 way street. Original post was about players backing out after commitment. Coaches stringing out players does not make it right or justified if that was what was implied.
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Ah, but could there be other variables some experience such as the team not looking at this point of having enough players even though the two stated they were coming back? Was there any other writing on the wall to get out of dodge before tryouts were over for other orgs?
Wheels just spinning is all...
Wheels just spinning is all...
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A lot of these girls want to play college ball... what is going to happen when they make a verbal commitment to a college then try to back out. Dealing with a situation where a girl committed to our program, then her old coach called and is trying to talk them out of the commitment to come back to his organization - to me that is just as bad.
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HilliardDad, as usual, makes a valid point.
Regardless of the circumstances though, what's wrong with saying "Hey coach, I want to come back next year, but there are a couple of opportunities out there that I want to explore"?
Or - "Girls, no one here is guaranteed a spot on next year's roster. You may want to have a realistic view and have a back-up plan".
The second statement will never me made. But my point is that people are afraid to say "No". Tell it like it is. You'll get more respect for that than by misleading or telling "half-truths"....
Regardless of the circumstances though, what's wrong with saying "Hey coach, I want to come back next year, but there are a couple of opportunities out there that I want to explore"?
Or - "Girls, no one here is guaranteed a spot on next year's roster. You may want to have a realistic view and have a back-up plan".
The second statement will never me made. But my point is that people are afraid to say "No". Tell it like it is. You'll get more respect for that than by misleading or telling "half-truths"....
The team would be full at 11 players if the 2 players didn't back out . They were with us for the last 2 seasons . Our team set player A up with a pitching coach and said pitching coach convinced player A's family that they should switch to a better organization ( which he is affiliated with ) . The family believed him when he told them his organization could het them to their goal of playing in college and that we could not . Player B heard this same news and followed them to the same team . There are a few organizations out there that I believe do give the players a slight edge as far as getting to that next level , but these 2 families are going to find out the hard way that the orginazation they chose is not one of them .
I also do agree that not telling a returning player were they stand coming into try outs is even worse than what these families did to us .
I also do agree that not telling a returning player were they stand coming into try outs is even worse than what these families did to us .
Westler33
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Not sure what this means.
Westler33
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Ok got it.
