Pitching and Pitchers Discussion Saw this online and wanted to share.....good read for all the bucket parents!

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My daughter is a pitcher, and I couldn?t be more proud of her!

I have watched the hours and hours that she has put in outside of practice. Out in the yard, hacking it out with a pitching rubber while her dad sat on a bucket. At lessons, being tweaked and challenged, and learning and re-learning weeks at a time. The daily workout that she does to make her legs and core stronger, in order to stay in shape and keep on improving. Pitching is not something you do well, on a whim. When other teammates get a day off, a pitcher is still pitching ? trying to perfect and improve her game.

I have sat behind the fence and watched games where she pitched with poise and composure, like nothing less than a champion. On those days, being the mom of a pitcher is easy ? and seeing her hard work pay off is satisfying beyond belief.

I have also sat behind the fence and literally ENDURED games where it seems my daughters emotions got the best of her. During those games ? the ones dripping with emotion, where nothing seems to be working, it takes a great deal of restraint to keep me from running on the field and saving her. Shielding her from the wilted shoulders on the sidelines, the jeers from the opposing team, the lowered eyes of her coaches and teammates when she walks in a run. It takes a tremendous effort to not bum-rush the umpires for not ?giving? her a strike, for missing the fact that she painted the black with her curve ball, to not be angry that they are trying to force my daughter to throw straight down the middle of the plate ? tossing a ?can of corn,? that will no doubt be taken deep by a batter.

I want to scream to everyone around me collectively sighing and losing faith in the little girl that I love ? everyone that seems so obviously disappointed when my daughter is struggling (whose daughters do NOT pitch),

?Do you have any idea how hard she works, how much time she puts in, how much she strives to be good, how HARD this pitching gig really is?? ?Could YOUR daughter do it?? ?Do you not realize that she is just a young girl trying her best out there??

But mostly, I just want to save my daughter. To protect her. And yet, all I know that I can do ? is be the person back there who still believes in her no matter what.

Maybe you can?t see it, but when things aren?t going well in the circle, I see the pain in her eyes. I see the tears she is holding back. I recognize the twitches of discomfort, embarrassment and frustration. I feel the thoughts in her head that are thinking maybe she isn?t good enough, maybe all the hours she has put in were for nothing. I recognize her disappointment, see her searching for one soft place to land her eyes. It?s a painful thing to sit back and simply watch your daughter in pain or distress. And yet, it is part of the gig when your daughter is a pitcher.

When my daughter pitches, I watch her feet. I notice her release point. I pay attention to her shoulders, her stride, her snap. I try to shout out the bits of advice that her pitching coach gives her, the little things that seem to be able to tie the larger picture of pitching altogether. Every tournament day, I toss away fearful thoughts about her being it with a line drive, look up to the sky and give a little prayer for her safety. And another prayer that her pitches work, and that she is able to somehow fool or upset the timing of the offense she is about to face. It is my job to sit there and just let it all happen!

Since my daughter and the catcher are the two that ACTUALLY TOUCH the ball more than anyone else on the field ? their mistakes seem so much more evident than the ground ball the short stop let go between her legs. Trust me, I hear the sighs. On bad days, I hear other parents whispering, ?WHEN are they going to pull her?? Or the fans who say, ?Oh my god ? another walk!?

And, on good days, I hear the crowd cheering her on, shouting ?good pitch,? and woo-hooing loudly when she strikes people out, or fools them with her change-up. I sense the feelings of pride and accomplishment that she feels, the gratification that her hard work is paying off.

As her mother, I am acutely aware that so many eyes are upon her. And I wonder inwardly ? how in the world she withstands that kind of pressure. It makes my heart well up with pride, to see my little girl ? handling so much pressure so well. While just yesterday she was holding my hand to steady her feet when she walked ? today she is standing in the middle of a softball field, prepared to show hundreds of people what it is she does on her ?off days.? Putting herself out there, risking it all for the sake of a game she loves, and teammates that she wants to do well for.

My daughter is a pitcher, and I couldn?t be more proud of her!
 

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It takes a special young lady to pursue the position of pitcher. It takes a special parent to help her see it thru to the end.

There should be a special day for them. lol
 

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I understand that pitchers have to work the position that they chose to pursue, but all of the great hitters and fielders also put in just as much work as they do. They also feel the pressure when they are up to bat and are expected to get a hit to put up some offense for their pitcher..... This is a team sport. That is why the pitcher has 8 other defenders out there to help them. They are not expected to strike out all of the batters. If they did that would be a very boring game. It is great you are proud of how hard your pitcher/ dd works, but do not discount how hard the others on the team work. Just my 2 cents.
 
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I'm sorry joboo, but I have to disagree as the parent of a pitcher who works her tail off. Not only does my pitcher work hard with her pitching ( lessons once a week, and throwing on her own 3 times a week and walking around working on her motion, and trying to cut down her toe drag as much as possible) She also hits the weight room and speed drills 3 times a week, sees her hitting coach twice a week, hits on her own twice a week, and works on her fielding at first base for when she has a game off from the mound. She takes pride in her hitting as well as her pitching and fielding. Not saying that others on the team do not work hard, but throw in the fact that a player is a pitcher as well, and it automatically throws on more of a workload ( at least for my DD). She understands that she chose to be a pitcher, and she loves it. Now mind you, she does all of this work on her own without any push from her mother or I. She is driven by her own fire to be the best and love of the game. The looks I get when I have to step in and shut her down once in awhile are totally worth it
 

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I'm sorry joboo, but I have to disagree as the parent of a pitcher who works her tail off. Not only does my pitcher work hard with her pitching ( lessons once a week, and throwing on her own 3 times a week and walking around working on her motion, and trying to cut down her toe drag as much as possible) She also hits the weight room and speed drills 3 times a week, sees her hitting coach twice a week, hits on her own twice a week, and works on her fielding at first base for when she has a game off from the mound. She takes pride in her hitting as well as her pitching and fielding. Not saying that others on the team do not work hard, but throw in the fact that a player is a pitcher as well, and it automatically throws on more of a workload ( at least for my DD). She understands that she chose to be a pitcher, and she loves it. Now mind you, she does all of this work on her own without any push from her mother or I. She is driven by her own fire to be the best and love of the game. The looks I get when I have to step in and shut her down once in awhile are totally worth it

LOL.... Not going to get into a my dd / your dd does what, but I can tell you the good hitters work on their own every day. Why is it that when a team wins then the pitcher wants credit, but when they lose the game it is a team sport. It is a 2 way street you can't have it both ways. A pitcher is 1 person on a team. She is not the team.
 

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It's not a my DD does this/your DD does that. I'm just saying most pitchers have a little more of a work load if they are an all around player. I can agree if a pitcher is just that, a pitcher that only pitches, just works on pitching while the team mates work fielding and hitting. And I agree, the win or loss goes to the team. You can't win a game if the team does not score, or play defense
 
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The OP was not about her daughter being better or her daughter working harder, it was about how a mom feels when her DD is out there on the field during the good and the bad. I too am a mom of a pitcher and that post hits home to all the feelings that I have during games. To turn this into a p#@$ing match about who works harder misses the meaning of the post.
 

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The OP was not about her daughter being better or her daughter working harder, it was about how a mom feels when her DD is out there on the field during the good and the bad. I too am a mom of a pitcher and that post hits home to all the feelings that I have during games. To turn this into a p#@$ing match about who works harder misses the meaning of the post.

I think you are missing my point I am not saying either works harder...... Hopefully all are working equally as hard....
 

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Softballmom2000 I think you nailed it! I am a pitcher's parent and experience all of those emotions when my DD steps in the circle. I'm always extremely proud of her and how hard she works to attain her goals. Each time I have read this over the past couple of years, it never fails to make me smile and remind me that all the time on the bucket is absolutely worth it. I don't feel author is discounting any player in any position, but rather sharing what she goes through during a game and proud because she knows what her daughter goes through is all that and much more! I have tremendous respect for every young lady that steps out onto the field, its a great game, it takes everyone doing their part.
 

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The best work harder at what they do MORE than anyone... Pitcher/hitter/basket weaver. Its a craft. The pitcher has not only to outwork at pitching but then has to stay focused with the bat as well. Walk in a pitchers shoes and you will get it.. Not to take anything away from anyone else but the pitchers life is a hard road... Emotionally and physically.

The takeaway I see from the original post is parents, grandparents, family.. All feel like they want all that hardwork to pay off and protect their kids. Letting everything go.. The other team chatter, the ups calls, the coaches decision and believe the kid will take everything they have learned and be ok... And when its not, to learn and grow from those tough games.

Great post for sure...
 
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I think the post wasn't about her daughter being better or working harder than anyone else, just a mom acknowledging the hard work of her daughter, she just happened to be a pitcher. Can't a parent just post something sweet and nice about their kid without some knucklehead crying foul or pretending to be offended?

We can empathize with you mom, our oldest is playing in probably her last game this afternoon in the conference tournament. She has been playing since she was 6, and now finishing her senior year in college. Softball has been a great avenue for her, minus the knuckleheads out there. And yes, she is a pitcher.
 

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I think the post wasn't about her daughter being better or working harder than anyone else, just a mom acknowledging the hard work of her daughter, she just happened to be a pitcher. Can't a parent just post something sweet and nice about their kid without some knucklehead crying foul or pretending to be offended?

We can empathize with you mom, our oldest is playing in probably her last game this afternoon in the conference tournament. She has been playing since she was 6, and now finishing her senior year in college. Softball has been a great avenue for her, minus the knuckleheads out there. And yes, she is a pitcher.

Why the name calling? I get the emotional rollercoaster of being a pitcher's parent. DD did pitch for a couple years.
 

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Longball00 nails it. Yes all good or great players work a lot on their own with parents, instructors and other coaches but the pitcher has to work the most and probably the hardest. Almost any player (in travel or the next level) can field a ball, catch the ball and do a pretty decent job most of the time at the plate. Not all of those players can pitch or want to pitch. A pitcher not only has to work on her other defensive positions, hitting and her core and so on but has to put in a lot of extra time in lessons and pitching practice that say, a shortstop or outfielder do not do. My DD pitches, plays center and a little first base so we understand the balance and commitment it takes to strive to be the player that she wants to be. So yes, pitchers have it tough but it sure is a delight to see all the hard work and time pay off!!!!!!!!
 

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Here is something I found online that maybe all bucket Dads need. lol
 

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Why is it that every time something like this gets posted someone has to make a comment that seems either to A) Try and tear down the original post, or B) Tries to point out the obvious that all who know anything about softball already know. Pitchers who take their craft seriously work theirs butts off, just as hitters, and fielders do as well. It was all just meant to be something fun to read and maybe get a smile about. Now that being said I do not think joboo meant any offense by saying what was said. Everyone needs to calm down a bit and stop taking ourselves so seriously.......I mean come on any player worth their salt works extremely hard on their skills.....and most pitchers probably do have a little more to do during the week then some other position players but that is the price they pay for choosing to be a pitcher. My DD is an 11u lefty pitcher who played the Sundogs last year and the Outlaws this year and she will be the first one to tell you that she needs and appreciates the great defense that gets played behind her. Anyone who saw any of our game last year will tell you that she was the first one to go congratulate a fielder on a great play, even if it was an out fielder. The point is that all great players work hard and lets just leave it at that.
 

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Why the name calling? I get the emotional rollercoaster of being a pitcher's parent. DD did pitch for a couple years.
The problem is you just had to throw your 2 cents in letting everyone know other girls work hard. Instead of it just being a nice story about a mother and how she feels about her DD. And for the record anybody that has a daughter or son that plays at an elite level at ANY sport knows they work their butts off to get there.
 
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I have 2 DD's that play travel, one who is a utility player that can flat out hit and one that is a pitcher. They both put in countless hours on their crafts but I will be the first to tell you that the pitcher has to put in more time. While it's not about getting the strikeout everytime, it is about being able to hit spots so those other 8 are able to make plays behind them. Love the original post for what it is, you can apply it to many parents who have felt those feelings for both pitchers and position players alike.
 

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