catcher895 said:
I was just upset by the fact that this coach stated "girls who are working hard then stated private lessons and instruction" That seems unfair-doesn't it.
Unfair? ?If girls and their parents want to take lessons and can afford to in order to improve their DDs chances of making a select team, why not? ?Also, just because a player takes hitting or pitching lessons does NOT guarantee that they will be chosen for a select team. Let be honest. ?Some just do not have the physical ability to play softball. ?My oldest daughter is a prime example of that. ?She loved softball but it did not matter how much she worked at it - she was not physically coordinated enough to advance beyond the Rec team level and I worked with her many, many hours. ?She just did not have that ability.
If you feel it is unfair that a coach suggests getting lessons, then what is your solution?
catcher895 said:
My dd does practice at home with us but I, myself, do not know how to correct her wrongs unless someone (a coach) tells me what she is doing wrong. She takes her ball and glove everywhere we go just to play as much as possible. She knows that she has room to improve but where does it come from without help from a coach. Rec just doesn't give her (and other girls) the opportunity to improve beyond a certain point. Most kids she plays with in rec aren't serious or don't have the ability to challenge her to improve. That is what drives a lot of kids to improve-someone playing better then them. No one wants to be shown up.
Have you sought the advice and recommendations from coaches on how and what to work on at home? The advice is not only for your DD but for you as well. ?You mention that she is on a select team. ?Talk with your coach on what you can do at home to help her improve. ?Ask how to work with you DD as well as what to work on. ?Pay attention at practices and work on the same at home. ?If you want you are welcome to come to my practices and bring you DD along and I will take a look and see what you can do to help her at home. ?PM me if you are interested.
You are right, no one wants to be "shown up" but sometimes it takes just that to develop the motivation to improve. ?If you are "shown up" you have two choices - you can lay there and cry "unfair" or you can get up and do something about it. ?If she is the type to get up and do something about it, the battle is half won.
catcher895 said:
?This thread is about the lack of players at the 12U level. It appears that that isn't the case if 30-40 girls are showing up for tryouts. You mean to say that out of 40 girls 11 cannot be found to play select softball. Wow-maybe expectations are getting to high. I don't know.
I know of an organization that sees over a hundred girls from all over the state in order to pick 11-12 girls. Each team and organization has it's own expectations and seek to find players that fits those expectations. ?You will find as many different "expectations" as you find uniform colors. ?If one organization's expectation's doesn't suit you - find another. ?
catcher895 said:
As far as finding help online we did this in August found a few drills that I have started with her to improve her throwdowns (her main problem area) but the reality is we live in Ohio-the weather just doesn't co-operate enough months out of the year to practice much off season unless you are on a team or you can go indoors ($$$instruction again).I have never came across an open gym type softball practice. Where you can just pay a small amount and go to practice on your own.
Check at your local school to see if there is an open gym where your DD to practice. ?If not, ask if there is anytime you can come to the gym to work with your daughter. ?Check with the local YMCA or rec center for times that you can use their facilities. Even some churches have facilities you can use (we have in the past). ?
There are all kinds post on here looking for players that want to play winter ball. ?Better yet, start your own winter ball team or talk with your select coach and see if there are players on the team that want to play winter ball (you only need 6 players). ?Look around, the answers are there and you have to find them. Opportunity does not always knock at your door.
catcher895 said:
[highlight]Again I am sorry to have hit a nerve[/highlight].
The "eyes" do not come out where someone "hits a nerve". ?It comes out when someone crosses the line or insults other posters, such as "Maybe some of you need to re-read that before taking a coaching position!" ?That was totally uncalled for. ?To apologize for "hitting a nerver" is not an apology.