We paid the team excess funds from a sponsor we obtained. We were very committed to the organization and as I said before just blown away at how we have been treated. I started the thread to get opinions from others as I thought the right thing to do would be to give the sponsor back their money since they asked my daughter to leave. To now make matters worse, they are giving me the run around as to when I will receive her release paperwork. It almost makes me want to give up on the entire softball community for good. As anyone else would feel, I believe our kids deserve better than this. I appreciate your feedback. Thanks very much.
Obviously without knowing what really went on, but if this "disagreement" was so egregious that you deserved to be kicked off the team, then just leave quietly and chalk it up as a lesson learned. If you truly were treated unfairly, then ask to have a meeting with head of the org and/or board of directors.
You talk about "release paperwork", but state prior to that there is no sort of policies in place. Every travel team that any of my kids have played for made the parents sign a contract that included bylaws and parent/player codes of conduct. Is this an established organization, or just some one-off team?
As far as fees go, I'd definitely ask for any unused portion the team fee back, but the "sponsor" portion is likely part of the teams general fund. Assuming that this sponsor was a business entity (and getting a tax deduction), it would look pretty bad for them to go to the travel ball org and say "Remember that charitable contribution that I made? Well....I want it back now".
My response may sound harsh, but I have been in both of the situations you described. During my oldest daughter's first year of travel, were were one of those "all in" parents (who didn't know any better haha). We brought in about $1,500 of additional sponsorship money, in addition to the team fees. The coach didn't apply any of that money towards my daughter, which I was fine with. We later came to find out that he used the team fees to subsidize that "stud player" that he had to keep on the team. The other instance; One of my daughters travel coaches benched her during a tournament for playing a High School sport her freshman year. She didn't miss a game that tourney, but left to play the HS sport immediately after the last softball game on Friday, and was back for the next game on Saturday. He said he was fine with multi-sport athletes as long as it didn't interfere with softball, which in this case it did not. He also had one of those "My kid doesn't do it, so your kid shouldn't either" attitudes. It all comes down to finding the best fit for your daughter, both with her on the field, and with the coach's beliefs and methodology.
Hopefully you and this travel ball org come to an agreement that works for everyone. Good luck.