Tryout Notification Etiquette

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This is SIMPLY a question! ?
How many of you have passed on a girl because her parents were ranting and raving in their chairs during the try-out? ?Or simply due to comments made by a parent in conversation? ?Basically letting you know you might be biting off more trouble than you want by taking this child (or shall I say this childs parents) regardless of the girls talent.
Are the parents "trying out" right along with their children they just don't know it?
Just wanted some different opinions

 

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Whitehall, I know I have done it on a couple of occassions

 

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Are the parents "trying out" right along with their children they just don't know it?
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Harder to judge at times, but most definitely. ?You'll be spending a minimum of 8-10 weekends with the parents as well as the girls. ?You can, by and large, exhibit some control over the girls' actions, a lot harder to do the same over the parents. ?So if you aren't comfortable with the parents at the tryout it could be a warining sign of future problems.

 

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i could actually see that happening alot. no coach's want drama on the team and some times you can tell right away by the way the parents act that they would bring drama.

 

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I was recently told by a friend, that at a try out 2 week ago that a parent actually walked out onto the field to yell at her daughter during the tryout for making a mistake. Parents, really just let your daughters play and have fun. if they truly have talent it will show on it's own, without you yelling.

 

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hit-n-run: HOW SAD! As if trying out isn't stressful enough .. lets add psycho parent in the mix. Breaks my heart.

 

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Without a doubt you look at the parents. As a co-founder of my organization and now in our 5th year I can say that 95% of any problems I have had have been with parents. I had a real good player last year alone I had to let go because one of her parents kept complaining she wasnt getting enough time catching. The girl played in every game batted sixth and played the outfield on a team that won 6 tournaments including NSA B'S STATE. The parents can definitely ruin it for the kids.

 

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FYI not my daughter.. but still not sure if the last post is really appropriate. singling out one of your own that, as you state, took you so far.


Question of the Day: Can a coach be a difficult parent or are they exempt?

 

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I think that in today's world, most people have computers. If players that made the team should be posted. If your name is not on the list you are welcome to try out again if there is another try out coming. Maybe they had a bad day.

But I hate the no notification at all.

 

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Players take the time to come to your try-outs, why can't you (the coaches) take the time and show respect to the players by giving them some type of response!

 

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Coaches should call or email. ?Rejection is never easy, but it is nice to know what your dd needs to improve. ?AND waiting by the phone is never easy!

 

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I have seen a few Nutjob parents who actually keep a written log of all the players mistakes and strengths thru the season !!...LOL ! As if the coach would care what they think. If I don't see a problem with a player than it isn't a problem. Parents should watch and cheer, but they should NOT try to act like scouts or coaches. This game is for the girls. Let's just all sit back and relax a little and let the kids enjoy being kids and let them play and let the coach just coach.

 

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OK, what about all the girls posting that they are looking for a team? We sent countless PMs and emails to players. The least they could do is post and say they found a team or say they are not interested.

 

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Notification is matter of common courtesy and I believe notification should therefore occur. If a team chooses not to notify kids, they should be clear that it is not their intent to phone or e-mail all kids.

 

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luvthegame?????

Who's the adult you or the kid.. What a joke!!! It would be very easy for a coach to e-mail whoever wanted to know if they didn't make the team. My opinion is it shows a little class!!

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I agree an email giving you closure would be nice. I am sure that all of you coaches have gone to job interviews and sat by the phone waiting for it to ring because you want it to ring so bad. Imagine that at 10 or 12 years old. I understand that phone calls to everyone would take a long time and sometimes get ugly. But a simple email-because most registrations asked for an email-even a bulk email to all the girls who did not make it would just be common courtesy.

 

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I'ts just a game! The game, as in life sometimes comes with positive and negative aspects, as a player from the previous year you had all year to try-out and if you found yourself on the bench more than you wanted to maybe you should have asked your coach or your parents for some assistance in improving. A coach can only coach in practice and in games, improvement is done at home from what your coach or instructor is asking from your children. As far as the etiquette goes,keep to your word but one should listen in try-outs to "your word". I have made some real friends with parents during the season only to ruin that friendship by trying to better a team of young ladies, and cutting a dd from a team the parent was miffed at the moment and said some things he/she didn't really mean. I guess what is a must is if you say you will call either way than call either way, if you say you will call only if you made the team, set a deadline and stick to it.

 

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csevi,

I agree with your bottom line: do what you say, if you say that you will do something.

Jason,

I agree that it is a measure of class.

 

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VALLEY STORM
You are so right on the money. ?I know of a mom who kept her own "stats" so that she could make a case for her dd to get more playing time! ?Like she couldn't alter her dd stats a little. ?The scorekeeper keeps very good and accurate records. ?It is funny. ?Needless to say, that player?didn't make the team a second season.

 

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Jason-
You missed my earlier post. I am the first one to say that coaches/organizations should inform all the girls whether they made the team or not.

My last post refers to all the players who are posting individually looking for a team. There are tons of replies sometimes for months. More than likely the player already has a team; they need to reply saying that they have a team to put closure to their original post.