What gives?

[default]

My DD's taught me that lesson 2 years ago. Once I realized and accepted that, they taught me what I needed to do to motivate them to push themselves just that much farther. But even those two, one is a catcher, one is a pitcher, have to be coached different. The pitcher needs encouragement to motivate while the catcher can use criticism and antics (to a point!) to get fired up.

My dd's are exactly the same way. My youngest, I can yell and scream at, it fires her up and she has a thick skull. Plus she strong willed. My oldest, completely different, she needs talked to as a human, but has the same strong will, just not a thick skull.

I think the movie Varsity Blues showed it best. Mox had his father pulling by the facemask, and he was fine. Billy Bob, was blowing up trophies with his shotgun because he remembered the negativity. But who helped out who with controlling their anger? I've known coaches who hit the boys pads hard enough to knock them down. They'd get mad, ready to cry, and he would explain how to harness that anger, how to act in that manner. I'd rather have that, then a kid who never played football, played those violent games on x-box and then get angry not knowing how to control those issues.

Maybe I'm too old-schooled. I turned out alright, within limits . I'm old school with my daughters, when they were younger, and they are sweethearts now.

 

[default]

My oldest and I get into some knock down drag outs in the back yard but if I get on my middle one too hard she will just shut down and quit on me. They have completely different personalities when it comes to that.

 

[default]

Its so weird that this post is up..I have 3 children 2 oldest are girls the last is my baby boy... I went to a high school football game last week and i will be Damned if my son will ever play football. the entire playing enviroment is way to harsh. IMO this sport is more physically and mentally challenged than most.. Dont get me wrong when my DD is playing her 5th sball game in 100 degree weather thats pretty challenging..BUT the coaches screaming over and over and over again.. and they were winning and the hits that these boys take.. I dont get it..My husband went to college in texas on a baseball and football scholarship..He is fine with the fact that my son plays golf basketball and baseball.. He has not pushed football at all.. Its kinda weird this is about the only thing he does not argue with me about????