The article makes some good points, but I have to disagree with all this emphasis on what the child wants.
I think back on my playing days, my parents never once did anything during a game to embarass me. Never yelled anything but encouragement to me and my teammates, never hollered at an umpire or coach, but we did have some long rides home. I looked at those talks as "parenting". No different than if I brought home a bad report card, I caught hell for that too. Sometimes as parents we have to tell our kids things they don't want to hear and I don't see the difference if it's on the way home or the next day. They still won't want to hear it.
Yes some parents are idiots, but the things I think are appropriate to criticize are:
- did they give 100%?
- were they paying attention?
- were they hustling?
- did they listen to the coaches and follow instructions?
I was raised that if it was worth doing, it was worth doing right, and that included sports. My parents were tough, but it never affected my love of the game. Just my two cents.