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read your post
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ac, now you read this
seriously, it is the kids decision to make. Parents should be there for support. Only if harm were to be possible to your own child and it not be a safe environment should the parent rule against them.
what do you want to read into this?
seriously, it is the kids decision to make. Parents should be there for support. Only if harm were to be possible to your own child and it not be a safe environment should the parent rule against them.
what do you want to read into this?
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Some school districts (Akron) don't have any choice. ?All coaches for every sport must be salaried employees. ?They get extra for coaching, but players are at the mercy of who is willing to do it. ?Even if you are an hourly employee of the school system, you still can't coach in Akron. ?I think there was a federal law passed that stated hourly employees could sue school systems for overtime or something? ?Maybe JoeA would know more on this.
The school my daughter attends in Akron atleast has a coach that knows the basics. ?He doesn't try to tell her all the things she knows are all wrong. ?He is also a certified umpire. ?So atleast he knows the rules(or he thinks so. lol). ?Over all she uses High School ball for what it is. ?Represently her school and recognition among peers. ?She will also learn a few life lessons along the way I am sure. ?Most every upper class teamate(jr. & sr.) also hold jobs to help suppliment family incomes. ?High School Softball is not real high on any family's list of weekly objectives with inner city schools. ?My daughter is the only player on team that plays travel ball. ?So both, herself and I, ?take it for what it is. ?Less pressure and try to have fun.
The school my daughter attends in Akron atleast has a coach that knows the basics. ?He doesn't try to tell her all the things she knows are all wrong. ?He is also a certified umpire. ?So atleast he knows the rules(or he thinks so. lol). ?Over all she uses High School ball for what it is. ?Represently her school and recognition among peers. ?She will also learn a few life lessons along the way I am sure. ?Most every upper class teamate(jr. & sr.) also hold jobs to help suppliment family incomes. ?High School Softball is not real high on any family's list of weekly objectives with inner city schools. ?My daughter is the only player on team that plays travel ball. ?So both, herself and I, ?take it for what it is. ?Less pressure and try to have fun.
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what I menat by my earlier post was, we have all heard stories like this before. The trouble with them is that each side will have a decidely different viewpoint of the situation.
I am not passing judgement on either the player or the coach, but I do know this, both of them more then likely see the situation completely different from the other.
Don't get me wrong, I would never in a million years support anything like that type of behavior from a coach. On the other hand, I highly doubt that everything in the post is exacatly as it was explained. No doubt it was a tramatic event for this young athlete and that is a shame.
I guess what I am trying to say is, this is her point of view and without the benefit of knowing "the rest of the story", well....then it is just a somewhat interesting story.
I am not passing judgement on either the player or the coach, but I do know this, both of them more then likely see the situation completely different from the other.
Don't get me wrong, I would never in a million years support anything like that type of behavior from a coach. On the other hand, I highly doubt that everything in the post is exacatly as it was explained. No doubt it was a tramatic event for this young athlete and that is a shame.
I guess what I am trying to say is, this is her point of view and without the benefit of knowing "the rest of the story", well....then it is just a somewhat interesting story.
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When I read the original post, it made me sick to my stomach. Unfortunately, this type of situation happens a lot. My daughters have experienced all kinds of situations with their coaches. The best thing I have been able to do is to encourage my daughters to learn from the situations they have been in.
There are times that there isn't a thing we can do to improve the situation we are in. However, I believe that there are always things that we can learn from and improve in our own lives--if not now, then down the road.
There are times that there isn't a thing we can do to improve the situation we are in. However, I believe that there are always things that we can learn from and improve in our own lives--if not now, then down the road.
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I was probably trying to use your post to make the same type of point. What are there 500-600 softball programs in the state of Ohio? We ALL want our kids to have great experiences with fond memories. Unfortunately that will not be the case for some kids. I have a couple of kids myself, and they would look back on there High School experience with the same coach completely differently. One of them would prefer not to ever talk to the coach again. The other may not proclaim him coach of the year, but would certainly go out of her way to help him and his program.
I am not supporting the coach in the original post, but I don't know any of the parties involved.
I was probably trying to use your post to make the same type of point. What are there 500-600 softball programs in the state of Ohio? We ALL want our kids to have great experiences with fond memories. Unfortunately that will not be the case for some kids. I have a couple of kids myself, and they would look back on there High School experience with the same coach completely differently. One of them would prefer not to ever talk to the coach again. The other may not proclaim him coach of the year, but would certainly go out of her way to help him and his program.
I am not supporting the coach in the original post, but I don't know any of the parties involved.
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DogsDad, I know what you are saying, you and I are on the same page.
My big question is, where were this players parents in all this. If this players life was that terrible, somebody should have noticed. I know that I would have.
My big question is, where were this players parents in all this. If this players life was that terrible, somebody should have noticed. I know that I would have.
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STOP PLAYING SOFTBALL, AND TAKE A FEW EXTRA ENGLISH CLASSES.....YALLLLLLLLLLLLLLL
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My parents were right beside me the whole way. They knew what was going on and told me that I could quit without any repercutions, but I wanted to stick it out. My belief is that I joined that team to play and beat someone else out of that spot who could've played, so it was my responsiblity to stick it out and play. True, I hated every minute of it, and so did most of the other girls. I can honestly say the only girl that liked him as a coach and as a person was his daughter, and at times the team had doubts haha 
... I do thank you all though for your kind responses!!! I really appreciate it! ;D
... I do thank you all though for your kind responses!!! I really appreciate it! ;D
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I am truly impressed with your decision. I can tell that you thought the situation through and made a mature decision. Even though the situation has been difficult for you, there is a good chance that it has made you a stronger and better person in many ways. The best of luck to you.
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its the kids decision play or not, bottom line
but in my opinion...kids now a days are soft.dont get their way..what do they do? quit!, they watch to much TV and see the big shot pros do whatever they want..it is sad what has become of sports.(all sports).suppose to be fun..but is heading in a different direction. its a shame a kid would quit HS ball...hopefully she doesnt regret it...
goodluck
but in my opinion...kids now a days are soft.dont get their way..what do they do? quit!, they watch to much TV and see the big shot pros do whatever they want..it is sad what has become of sports.(all sports).suppose to be fun..but is heading in a different direction. its a shame a kid would quit HS ball...hopefully she doesnt regret it...
goodluck
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For some reason, I don't Think that the original post was 100% true. Dedicated or not, if things were really that bad, any parent with sense would have ended it. Parents are still the boss, at least in my house. Softball is supposed to be fun, not a way to get money for school. Some parents and players have a false sense of school scholorships. Truth is... that only 4% of prospects actually get the big prize according to ohioedu.org./ For that 4% then the money is well spent, but for the other 96% it had better been a really good time in the sun because memories is all you have for the big money spent. Sure some teams go 70-0 or so, but those are the exception. High school ball is fine for the average player, depending on your coach and district. If you are really that good then by all means, spend the big bucks and try to be one of the thousands who are trying to make it into that 4%.
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I would rather have my kid dreaming of being one of the 4 percent than not having any dreams at all.
TO all the young ladies out there BELIEVE in yourself and your DREAMS. Work hard and Never give up on yourselves. To quote the water boy "you can do it"
TO all the young ladies out there BELIEVE in yourself and your DREAMS. Work hard and Never give up on yourselves. To quote the water boy "you can do it"
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