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Re: Coach Approching
Sounds like another classic example of poor / improper communication from both parties.
H&G has a great post on this and to answer his question "why do parents do this"? Most of the time a parent/player is so happy they have made a strong team playing a tough schedule they do not realize that they are number 10,11,12 on the team and will see little if not any playing time in most tournaments unless their skills improve. Then the disappointment sets in as the season drags on. Also, there are the problems with some coach?s that have bad communication/teaching skills when it comes to the weaker players.
This year I have witnessed four such scenarios at tournaments on 10,12,14 year old teams (big and small organizations) and the result was the parent packing up the child and their equipment and leaving the park with the child in tears. When this happens it is upsetting to the people and players around these situations and the coach is generally as much to blame as the parents.
It is the coaches job to put the best possible team on the field and instruct all the players during games / practice and communicate to all what they need to do to improve. If a coach does this it should never come as a "surprise" to a player or parent if their DD is not in the starting line-up especially consistently.
Why do coaches fail to communicate?
My guess is the coach knows they are doing something wrong or the coach is afraid that a parent/player may leave the tournament/team over playing time and the coach is afraid to give the player/parent reasons for the lack of playing time especially if they are not good teachers.
In some cases the coach has put a player on the team that does not have the skill to compete at the level he is wanting to play no matter how much they practice and they do not want to tell the parents they may have wasted their money so, they let the player warm the bench the whole season wondering.
There is also the most common wrong reason to have a weaker player on a team $$.
All these scenarios usually ends up in a blow up at the worst possible time.
This is the time of year parents need to make sure they are putting their DD on a team that is a good fit for them with instruction and schedule compared to their DD skills.
If the player /parent dedicates to work at home/practice the player will then get the skill to crack the line-up if they are on the right team.
Sounds like another classic example of poor / improper communication from both parties.
H&G has a great post on this and to answer his question "why do parents do this"? Most of the time a parent/player is so happy they have made a strong team playing a tough schedule they do not realize that they are number 10,11,12 on the team and will see little if not any playing time in most tournaments unless their skills improve. Then the disappointment sets in as the season drags on. Also, there are the problems with some coach?s that have bad communication/teaching skills when it comes to the weaker players.
This year I have witnessed four such scenarios at tournaments on 10,12,14 year old teams (big and small organizations) and the result was the parent packing up the child and their equipment and leaving the park with the child in tears. When this happens it is upsetting to the people and players around these situations and the coach is generally as much to blame as the parents.
It is the coaches job to put the best possible team on the field and instruct all the players during games / practice and communicate to all what they need to do to improve. If a coach does this it should never come as a "surprise" to a player or parent if their DD is not in the starting line-up especially consistently.
Why do coaches fail to communicate?
My guess is the coach knows they are doing something wrong or the coach is afraid that a parent/player may leave the tournament/team over playing time and the coach is afraid to give the player/parent reasons for the lack of playing time especially if they are not good teachers.
In some cases the coach has put a player on the team that does not have the skill to compete at the level he is wanting to play no matter how much they practice and they do not want to tell the parents they may have wasted their money so, they let the player warm the bench the whole season wondering.
There is also the most common wrong reason to have a weaker player on a team $$.
All these scenarios usually ends up in a blow up at the worst possible time.
This is the time of year parents need to make sure they are putting their DD on a team that is a good fit for them with instruction and schedule compared to their DD skills.
If the player /parent dedicates to work at home/practice the player will then get the skill to crack the line-up if they are on the right team.